Redefined

A couple of weeks ago I took pilates. And just like the first time I took yoga, I thought “this shouldn’t be too hard.” WRONG.

My dear friend Leneé is a pilates instructor – a really good instructor- and offered to do a session in her home along with an assessment of health and fitness goals. I was game and super excited — and of course brought champagne.

But then the reformer entered. If you know anything about a pilates reformer, my face was all types of twisted after the session. REALLY? This machine is the business. Basically, it’s a bed-like frame with a flat platform on it, called the carriage, which rolls back and forth on wheels within the frame. Hun?

When we started, I immediately knew this “ish” was going to be hard. “This way,” “that way,”  “now go,” “come on, you got it.” Whaaaa….I was tired after five minutes. However, I got through it and plan to make my way back for another session.

Leneé started Beauty Fitness Redefined in 2016 with one mission in mind: therapeutic strengthening and stretching of the mind and body. This fitness company serves clients in the metro Atlanta area by teaching Barre, Cycling, Pilates, and Corporate Stretch™ Classes.

She has always loved movement as a dance major at UNC Charlotte and former captain for the Carolina Panthers Cheerleader Squad. So what led her to this moment? In August of 2000, after experiencing paralysis on the left side of her body, she received a diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis (MS).

“Regaining strength and mobility was not only a physical challenge, but also a mental one.” Leneé regained mobility and strength in “record timing” according to her doctors and hasn’t looked back since.

She continues to make strides in teaching movement and holistic wellness as clients will eventually have sessions available via a mobile app.

“This will be a great opportunity to serve our clients outside of metro Atlanta or those who are unable to travel for an in-person session.”

And finally as we finished our session, we popped that chilled bottle of champagne – you know the typical thing you do after exercising – and proceeded to catch up.

The most important thing I learned from her: truly define your health and fitness goals and be proud of the steps you make to become better.  At that moment when she received the diagnosis of MS, she redefined herself.

Meet Leneé Beauty Fitness Redefined. 

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

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Off

When you feel off, you are.

Last week, I had a conversation with someone dear to my heart and felt like something was wrong and couldn’t figure it out.

We talked again and realized we both were thinking the same. Thankfully, we figured it out. A loved one had passed: I didn’t know and she thought I did. Talk about being off the mark.

When you feel different or off, do you act on it or let it ride? I let this one ride for a week knowing something wasn’t right. Wrong, wrong, wrong. Trust your instincts and feelings.

We all have that sixth sense. Think about all the moments you trusted your gut and didn’t go, decided to call for whatever reason, or took another route–and it was for the better.

According to care2.com, there are five gut instincts you should always trust as it relates to feeling “some type of way:”

  1. Something feels wrong in my body
    This goes without saying. Your body will tell you when something is wrong. Check it out.
  2. I’m in danger
    The feeling you get in that first 10 seconds about a person or situation is the truth. You know what you have to do – remove yourself.
  3. I want to help
    Most times we think of our instincts as a way to avoid something bad. But there is also good with our gut feelings. If you feel compelled from within, help.
  4. I know how to do this
    Too many times we think we can’t, when we know we can. Don’t overthink it. You got this #me
  5. This is it
    When you know, that you know, that you know, there is no conflict and it comes easy – love, a job, whatever.

The next time you feel off: question it, figure it out, and trust those instincts.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

Taylor’d to the T

It’s done.

This has been a long time coming. We finally launched our website for Taylor’d Events & Media, a business I started in 2008 –  before I had ANY kids. . . and now I have three, go figure :o)

In any event, I learned three important things in creating this site:

  1. Quality feedback – thank you to everyone who reviewed it over and over again. This is always a good idea. ALWAYS.
  2. Take your time and do it the way you see it – your vision, not anyone else. It’s your name on the line–and for me, literally.
  3. Pay a professional for HTML and web design elements from the beginning if you want it to look professional and customized.

Everything is a work in progress as I check off #32 on my 40 for 40 list (two down; only 38 more to go) and I’m happy to say the site has been Taylor’d to the T!

Never give up.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

 

Put your hands up

It was bath time last week. Who knew bathing my 6 year-old-son would provide much more perspective on the words “put your hands up.”

As he soaked in his suds, I asked him to put his hands up–and then I stopped.  Fear seeped in. The thought of him being told this reminded me of what it really meant considering current and past events.

The action of putting your hands up has much more meaning than just the words. And when it hit me, I thought about “the conversation” we’d have with both of our boys when the time called for it. All these thoughts as I gazed at the suds.

What age would it be appropriate to really explain this? And why do we have to have this conversation as black parents with our black boys? And girls? Do other races have the same conversation, deeply, like we’ll have to?

“Put your hands up ” means different things, at different times, to different people. Some of us have been clear on this for a lonnnngggg time. But now, it just so happens it’s been caught on tape. Ponder that.

This all went through my head as he looked at me with innocence and rose his hands. I imagine the same innocence the mothers of Trayvon Martin, Eric Garner, Michael Brown, Freddie Gray and all the mothers saw in their own son’s eyes when they bathed them. Innocence.

There are a lot of different points of view that have us in disarray and divided as country. Whether you have decided to kneel with Colin Kaepernick or join in another movement, “put your hands up,” remains the same but will also take on another meaning for me from this point on.

Put your hands up as a call for action; put your hands up to lift someone else in need; and finally put your hands up as you seek and pray for the answer.

While we’ll still have the conversation with our boys (and girl), I’m encouraged the same words will continue to ignite us to do something.

Put your hands up for positive change . . . because the sun always comes out after the rain.

Sun Taylor

Follow my lead

Hubby: Hey, I’m getting ready to call my parents
Me:  Everything OK?
Hubby: Yes . . . (pause)
Me: Look of concern
Hubby: Just follow my lead
Me: Immediate side eye

Follow my lead? Not this natural born leader #uhhsure. While the conversation went well with my in-laws (I think; smile mom!) I was a little anxious because who’s interested in being a follower? Squinched face.

If you’re human – then you add husband/wife and mother/father—you’re constantly leading in some shape, form, or fashion. Leading what’s for dinner, leading homework, leading at work to get that promotion, leading your family and friends down a better path, and finally leading yourself up to bed at the end of an exhausting day. Always leading.

When was the last time you actually followed someone? And why did you decide it was OK? You know you’ve been told otherwise.

From the time we enter the world to landing that first job and beyond, we’re supposed to L-E-A-D. “Be a leader”, “make sure you show leadership,” or “lead like a champ” have been ingrained into our hearts and heads forever.

But what if I don’t feel like leading? Can I sit down and follow? Yes, but with good reason and trust.  And it doesn’t mean your leadership card gets snatched away.

When you trust a person enough to follow, you’re setting aside your own beliefs and motives by allowing them to take over as pilot as you co-pilot. It’s perfectly fine in personal relationships, i.e. marriage, and professional relationships.

Yes, I gave side eye when I was told “follow my lead,” but knew my husband wasn’t going to lead me astray. I trust him.

And finally, as my mother-in-law has told me “following based on trust, love, and example is the only way to go.” I’ll leave that right there.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

“I’m proud of you”

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless –Mother Teresa.

When was the last time you told someone you were proud of them? Was it for something small or big they accomplished or a goal they were working on day in and day out? In any event, did you tell them?

Over the past two years I have encountered some challenges but continue to remain thankful for each situation. From work and home life to family and friendships – the lessons have been worth it. But more importantly, I’m thankful for my motivators and inspirers who keep me going with kind words. And this week, I got a dose which was right on time.

“I’m proud of you.” It’s amazing how these four words stopped me right in my tracks. While I’ve been told this before from friends to colleagues, I think what grabbed me: it was from someone close who noticed. Certainly there have been others who have said the same words – you know who you are and I appreciate you — but it got me thinking about why it was so important.

When someone says, they’re proud of you it means they’ve been paying attention to you through the ups and downs, been right there watching you remain committed to what you want to accomplish. And it means a lot.

I sat there and re-read the email about three or four times and then responded with how much it meant to me. It was what I needed and I held onto the words.

We all know how important it is to compliment one another – especially women. But when someone actually notices it carries a lot of weight. At that moment I felt reinvigorated, courageous, ambitious, and knew I could count on myself to keep moving forward.

The next time you see something worth the mention, tell the person “I’m proud of you!” We all could use a pat on the back.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

P.S. And for the record, I’m proud of you reading this post. I am certain you have done something to hug yourself for :o)

Happy Labor FREE Day

Well . . . the summer will unofficially end in three days; back to school and back to the basics. But in celebration of Labor Day, I’ve decided to have a Labor FREE Day come Monday:

  • I will not jump out the bed early
  • I will not be cooking
  • I will not be cleaning
  • I will not be folding laundry
  • I will not yell at a kid to stop whatever – just walk away
  • I will not run around the house doing projects that I forgot about during the week

That’s all–carry on.

Happy Labor FREE Day!

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

SunTaylor

 

 

4-0

 40 – A bottle containing 40 fluid ounces of malt liquor beer. The beer is of low quality and fairly cheap to buy ~ Urban Dictionary

This past Monday, I turned 40. But luckily I’m not of “low quality and fairly cheap to buy.” But pass me an Olde English and pour out a little liquor for 39; she’s gone.

In all seriousness, I had a great time, received wonderful gifts, and was happy to see another year. “Life begins at 40,” or “40 and fabulous” started to roll in quickly and I appreciated them all. But I do think I was already fabulous #adjustingcrown.

I did notice my temperament— with some things— immediately changed. It was a reawakening of “you got this and don’t forget it.” Five days in and several thoughts have come to mind with 4-0:

Who cares what others think
I have never really been one to care what others think (besides my husband and perhaps 2.5 others) But now, I REALLY don’t. Think what you want. Those are your thoughts anyway.

Call it like you see it
I used to tread lightly in certain areas and with certain people. Deuces to that. Whether it’s good or bad, be ready for nice, nasty, or nice-nasty. You pick which one. We’ll still be friends. . . maybe.

“Ain’t nobody got time for that”
With three kids, work, life, and my new age, I really don’t have time for games or play-play. It’s straight up about business, at least sometimes. I still love you though.

Step off and away from . . .
The scale! I had grandeur plans to lose 50 lbs for my 40th. Guess what? That didn’t quite happen. But, I feel great and have learned to accept me for who I am: lips, hips, and a bag of chips. Whaa?

Root for yourself
Ups and downs in my 39 years has taught me to go for the win for you. Being selfish is not always being selfless. Remember that moms and dads.

Do what you want
And in the process be unapologetic. We get caught up in what we should do as opposed to what we really want to do. Have a plan and do you boo!

And finally, remain thankful. Never let the things you want make you forget about the things you have.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

Day One or One Day?

This one is quick and straight to the point.

I don’t even know where to begin. What the $*&% is going on? Is this really happening?

Recent events and commentary about Charlottesville has us all thinking and contemplating our next move. Well, apparently people are “making America great again.” Really? #smdh

Well if anyone cares, America was great before all this “ish” started going down – like about a year or so ago—now enters the current president. A couple of things come to mind when I think about all that has transpired over the last couple of months and possible next moves:

  1. Since we were bamboozled last November, perhaps we should think about another voting system: maybe a fingerprint– the middle finger sounds about right.
  2. We need to continue to teach children to understand and accept differences early on. But they also need to understand race and racism. There’s a difference.
  3. Do your own research when it comes to politics, controversy, and whatever else. And then pass truth on because everyone loves false truths.
  4. The media is tricky – watch what you watch and hear – everything is up for discussion these days but it may not be what it’s cracked up to be.
  5. Stop living up to stereotypes that you or others have created. Do the opposite of what the “label” reads.
  6. Continue to pull people’s card when they say or do something that makes you uncomfortable. And I don’t only mean from a black and white standpoint – but all standpoints.
  7. No need to talk in code. Tell what’s really going on even if you offend people.
  8. Continue to hold politicians accountable. Write a letter, send an email, or just show up.
  9. Do the right thing- always. No need to be right. Just do right. Simple.
  10. And finally, work on getting 45 out of the White House. No other explanation needed.

This is a reminder that we all have to move more towards what needs to be done–purposefully and strategically–as opposed to waiting for someone else to do it. Present company included.

You either start with day one OR one day. You decide.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

Time out…puhlease!

Welcome back to school; hooray (insert sarcastic tone).

A part two to my oldie but goodie post from last week, I recently contributed to Atlanta Area Mom Blogs and realize that we ALL need a freakin’ time out similar to our kids.

Take heed and enjoy!

Because the sun always comes out after the rain.

Sun Taylor