Day One or One Day?

This one is quick and straight to the point.

I don’t even know where to begin. What the $*&% is going on? Is this really happening?

Recent events and commentary about Charlottesville has us all thinking and contemplating our next move. Well, apparently people are “making America great again.” Really? #smdh

Well if anyone cares, America was great before all this “ish” started going down – like about a year or so ago—now enters the current president. A couple of things come to mind when I think about all that has transpired over the last couple of months and possible next moves:

  1. Since we were bamboozled last November, perhaps we should think about another voting system: maybe a fingerprint– the middle finger sounds about right.
  2. We need to continue to teach children to understand and accept differences early on. But they also need to understand race and racism. There’s a difference.
  3. Do your own research when it comes to politics, controversy, and whatever else. And then pass truth on because everyone loves false truths.
  4. The media is tricky – watch what you watch and hear – everything is up for discussion these days but it may not be what it’s cracked up to be.
  5. Stop living up to stereotypes that you or others have created. Do the opposite of what the “label” reads.
  6. Continue to pull people’s card when they say or do something that makes you uncomfortable. And I don’t only mean from a black and white standpoint – but all standpoints.
  7. No need to talk in code. Tell what’s really going on even if you offend people.
  8. Continue to hold politicians accountable. Write a letter, send an email, or just show up.
  9. Do the right thing- always. No need to be right. Just do right. Simple.
  10. And finally, work on getting 45 out of the White House. No other explanation needed.

This is a reminder that we all have to move more towards what needs to be done–purposefully and strategically–as opposed to waiting for someone else to do it. Present company included.

You either start with day one OR one day. You decide.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

Time out…puhlease!

Welcome back to school; hooray (insert sarcastic tone).

A part two to my oldie but goodie post from last week, I recently contributed to Atlanta Area Mom Blogs and realize that we ALL need a freakin’ time out similar to our kids.

Take heed and enjoy!

Because the sun always comes out after the rain.

Sun Taylor

 

Keep smelling the roses

Perfect time for this oldie but goodie.

It’s back to school time which equals crazy schedules, homework, and even more wine. As we all work around each other, remember to take time for yourself (mom and dad), slow down, and keep smelling the roses.

Enjoy!

Sun Taylor

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It’s Thursday mid-morning, I’m chit chatting with family, relaxed, and having a nice breakfast. And then I realize I have ONE hour to get to the grocery store, run some other errands, and pick up the first born from school. Immediate head rush.

I jump up and my aunt says “slow down.” I breathe in and out and hit the door like the Dukes of Hazzard (remember Daisy Duke?)

Why are we always in a rush? I see people rushing way too much these days. We put such a high priority on being numero uno, getting things done quickly, or getting somewhere fast. Slow down please, the roses will thank you.

Case in point – I’m in the car line picking up my child and another parent rushes out of the parking lot in between me and another car. I almost lost it but remembered where I was and who was with me  – so I mumbled the four letter words under my breath.

Guess what? We ended up at the same stop sign at the exact same time. Surprise. This happens most of the time – you end up at the same place after you rudely skirted around someone or honked your horn. Slow down, the roses are waiting.

And what about this thing called “rush hour traffic.” That has got to be the biggest oxymoron on the face of the planet- sorry, I digress.

Anyway, we tend to spend our days trying to meet deadlines, beat stop signs, or make beelines. We rush through giving our kids a kiss goodbye or telling our spouses “have a good day” for no apparent reason. Again, slow down.

You never get time back with your family and friends and rarely want those special moments to go by quickly. Life is way to short to rush through it.

So. . . sloowww downnnn and SMELL THE ROSES! They’re ready.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

 

Late breaking: school starts next week :/

If you haven’t figured it out by now – or rather accepted the fact school starts next week for some – please join in the “fun.” It’s only Friday evening and you have PLENTY of time. . . not really.

As we all prepare for that big day with school supplies, uniforms, and whatever else, there are some that need a little extra help.

My husband and I own a barber shop and we’re hosting a back to school event on Saturday, August 5 and WE NEED YOUR HELP!  You can make a donation here toward school supplies that will assist over 100 families in the community.

So do what you can to make a difference. Because the sun always comes out after the rain.

Sun Taylor

TCB B2S

What Matters Most

Humility. Yes, I am actually writing about this because Leos (birthday August 21!), yours truly, tend to be stubborn, wanting to do what they want to do, and don’t take “no” for an answer. We are confident in our decisions and usually find a work-around if there is a challenge ahead.

Recently I read an article posted by a dear friend (thanks @creativityflows19) that really stood out. It was by Jason Young about being humble – not just with man, but more importantly, with God.

As you all know, I write about all types of things in my life – my kids, my husband, my family, my friends, and whatever else. In addition, I’m hopeful that somewhere in my writing my spirituality comes through. I am no saint, more so a work in progress, but try to remain connected to a higher being.

A long time ago, my father told and taught me about humility “If you remain humble before God, anything is possible.” I never forgot it. Never.

Like I said, a work in progress and I’ve learned a lot in the past year about humility. From being at home with my kids, to reinvigorating our media & events business, to going back to work, to staying afloat with our barber shop, and trying to keep it all together.

With all of this, there have been threats to my sanity, our finances, my marriage, and family – and I don’t mean threats from people. I mean the threats that come in from our thoughts that create unnecessary situations, issues, and of course arguments.

When was the last time you had an argument and humbled yourself by saying “I’m sorry” first? At times, it’s hard for some – we just let it ride when we know we were wrong or, heck, even right. I tend to think first about all the reasons why I was right and they were wrong. It’s human nature I guess.

But what does being right have to do with being humble? Nothing I am finding. Yes, right is right and wrong is wrong but what does it really mean when we think about it? Again, nothing.

I have found that when you come to someone and apologize, it softens their heart and yours. It rids you both of the weight that comes with an argument (that was probably dumb in the first place) or a grudge that is holding you back in some way. It’s just not worth it.

At the end of the day, we all learn from our issues. Those experiences make us stronger. When you show humility, you’re the better person and will always come out on top in God’s eyes. That’s what matters most.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

 

#GirlsTrip

What happens on this trip, STAYS on this trip. #pinkyswear

Remember that time you took a girls trip? I thought it’d be appropriate to bring all those memories back considering the movie, Girls Trip, comes out next week. This type of trip would be perfect right about now, I’m just saying.

I remember a time when a girls trip or field trip was nothing – you thought it and then you did it. We would hit the car or plane with no worries with freedom to do whatever. Now, it’s like moving an iceberg.

o   First it has to be cleared with the CFO husband

o   Second, possible arrangements for the kids – um, why am I doing this and one parent will still be present?

o   Now to pack clothes that I probably either can’t fit or don’t even like anymore – but let’s roll anyway

o   How much money do you I need – refer back to the CFO – wosah

o   Now hit the road –oh wait, I forgot my underwear—just kidding.

In all honesty, I love taking road trips or plane trips with my girls. I have traveled to Jamaica, France, Spain, and Sweden among other places with friends. And then there were all the adventures in college to New York, Chicago, Philly, LA, South Carolina (shout out to Orangeburg!) and others I can’t remember. It was an exploratory time and I loved it.

So with the movie coming out in about a week, here is a list of girl trips I plan take BEFORE then…sure. I can dream, right?

A Day at Serenbe

A cool community south of Atlanta where you can shop all day, go to the spa, hike, and more. And then if you’re tired, stay with your friends at The Inn. Do whatever your fancy pants wants. Any takers?

Pop the Cork Wine Tours

Did you say wine? I am there with a big glass. I love wine tasting and this seems like an awesome opportunity to get together and be adult with your girlfriends. Lunch is included too? Cheers!

Iwi Fresh Garden Day Spa

Need I say more? Anything that has the word “spa” in it, works for me. No kids. No husband. Relaxation. And then you head back to reality after it’s over…but who’s keeping tabs right? Sit back and enjoy anyway.

Salamander Resort & Spa

When I finally do get away for a quick girlfriends trip, this would be one of my picks primarily because it’s owned by extraordinaire Sheila C. Johnson. It sounds wonderful and I have friends that have been—without me (insert sad face).

Kanuhura Maldives

And for the ultimate girls trip, THIS IS IT. When I call and say “pack your bags,” don’t ask any questions because this is where we are going. Beautiful!

So take a moment, think of all your girls, and plan a field trip…NOW!

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…especially with your girlfriends!

Sun Taylor

Doe Joe on that Beat

I think one of the most important lessons we can teach our kids is responsibility. I have always told my family and friends: my kids are either my problem now or society’s probably later- so I try to teach them how to be right now and do what they’re supposed to do.

The best way to teach kids responsibility at an early age – chores. I actually didn’t mind chores growing up which is probably why I am somewhat of a neat freak now. If my house is in disarray, I can’t function and then everyone is in trouble #workinprogress

According to the Center for Parenting, research indicates that children who have a set of chores have higher self-esteem, are more responsible, and are better able to deal with frustration and delay gratification, all of which contribute to greater success in school.* Walah. Bring it on!

This past week, we started chores in the house. At school, my oldest son gets “doe-joe” points if he is a model student and/or does a good deed. So at home, we decided go with “doe-go” dollars as in “do good,” dollars for chores. It was easy peasy and I was willing to give it whirl with my 4 and 6-year old.

This is how the conversation somewhat went down:

Me: “Ok, we are going to start chores this week for an allowance.”

Kids: “Allowance? What’s that?”

Me: “Money!”

Kids: “Oh, like doe-joe points at school?”

Me: Blank stare…”Ohh, yes.”

Me: “We’ll call them doe-go dollars, like do-good dollars, ok?”

Kids: “Ok!”

And then. . . the skies opened up (insert hallelujah music here)

  1. The playroom was immediately cleaned and vacuumed (with little assistance mind you) and I didn’t have to ask twice.
  2. The family room was dusted (with some of my help) without any fighting over who was going to do it.
  3. The beds were made with no issues like whining that tends to drive me KRAZY.
  4. Socks were put on without “I can’t” or “I don’t want to.” Is this a joke?
  5. Shoes were put away BEFORE I broke my ankle and tripped over them.
  6. And most important, they learned to work together – for now at least.

I should have started this when they were 1 and 3 years-old. Now, I’m broke.

In any event, I am glad the kids want to help and can appreciate earning (and saving) money. The best thing about having three kids: I will not be cleaning as much (live in housekeepers); the yard will always be done (yes, work needs be done outside too darlings!); and the laundry service will come to a halt soon (they’ll be washing their own darn clothes) because I am about tired of all these socks.

I can’t wait . . . because the sun always comes out after the rain when your KIDS clean your house. Off to the nail salon!

Sun Taylor

*Center for Parenting Education website

It’s about to go down. . .

Wooosah.

In about two months, I turn the big 4-0. How did that happen? I feel like I was just 25 and now look at me – married for almost 11 years with three kids. And this California girl is living in Atlanta- who knew.

So what does 40 mean? Do you cry? Eat? Or have a mid-life crisis? Well, I plan to eat and see whatever else falls into my lap. One of my friends @momsdestiny suggested I complete 40 things to commemorate the year; sure and I’ll send her the bill later.

But it did get me thinking. What would you do if you could complete 40 things of your choice in a year? Here is my long list and maybe –just maybe–I’ll make it through ALL of them. Hopefully my husband is taking notes #teehee

  1. Visit Italy with the hubby
  2. Horseback riding on a beautiful beach
  3. Visit Barbados and never come back (just kidding!)
  4. Take a trip with my kids to Hershey Park
  5. Get a massage on the beach
  6. Go to the opera
  7. Visit the Grand Canyon
  8. Take my mom to New York (I still can’t believe she’s never been)
  9. Test drive a Porsche
  10. Buy a designer purse – Fendi, Birkin, Louis, Gucci- you know one of those
  11. Swim with dolphins
  12. Drive across country
  13. Wine tour in Napa Valley
  14. Take a magic pill to lose weight in two days (the struggle is real)
  15. Ride on a motorcycle with my husband- sun shades and Daisy Dukes #yep
  16. Actually play on a golf course
  17. Take an Alaskan cruise
  18. Decorate my little girl’s room – for real this time
  19. Run the Peachtree Roadrace
  20. Learn some Spanish
  21. Make a homemade apple pie
  22. Roast a big ass turkey
  23. Take my kids to Disney World
  24. Paddle boat around the Jefferson Memorial in Washington, D.C.
  25. Go up in the Washington Monument
  26. Visit the 9/11 Memorial
  27. Visit the National Museum of African American Culture and History
  28. Visit the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute
  29. Take a water aerobics class
  30. Get a FitBit
  31. Join a book club
  32. Complete my business website
  33. Volunteer when I can
  34. Open another barber shop with my husband
  35. Go camping or shall I say “glamping.”
  36. Take a girls trip
  37. Invest in property
  38. Participate in a bible study at church
  39. Turn 41
  40. Have fun even on the rainy days

Forty, here I come baby #adjustscrown

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

Allow me to reintroduce myself . . .

“Fellow Americans, it is with the utmost pride and sincerity that I present this recording as a living testament and recollection of history in the making during our generation.”

“Allow me to reintroduce myself”

I know you’ve had to reintroduce yourself a couple of times, right? And I mean this in the nicest way possible— but sometimes people need to be reminded of who you really are . . . #flickshair #adjustscrown.

Occasionally our closest friends and loved ones forget what we’re capable of at our high and low points in life. Undeniably, when we’re at the low end, our grit and hustle kick in teaching us to appreciate the high points ALWAYS.

The best way to describe reintroductions goes something like this:  you meet your mate, fall in love with all their “ways,” and then get amnesia once you cross that threshold called the altar -uh, wayyyment! Guess what, they were like this all the long but your head may have been in the clouds. No worries.

“Hi, I’m Neat Freak, the person you married about a month/years ago that has been this way FOR YEARS.”

From his analytic insight to her dramatic ways, you learn it’s a part of this person and you’ll need to learn to accept it.

Yes, there will be many days when you have to explain why you think the way you think, why you do what you do, why you wear what you wear, etc.  And why? Because for the most part, people really don’t change much when it comes to their core. This is when Jay-Z’s lyrics kick in and reintroduction begins:

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re challenged: this shows our toughness and usually based upon our life experiences.

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re hurt: this is a reminder of our vulnerability and how we’re able to make a comeback through the heartache and headache.

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re fearful: fear is never an emotion we should dwell upon. Acknowledge it and then move away from it as quickly as possible.

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re confident: My favorite. When confidence reappears (and not cockiness) it can inspire a whole lot of people. It’s good food for the soul.

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re on a mission: Nothing can get in the way of someone who has a goal in mind. They just keep at it until it’s accomplished. I can and I will; end of story.

As we constantly reintroduce ourselves, we still remain our true selves. If you meet someone today expect them, for the most part, to be the same tomorrow.

We love (and like) people for who they are as opposed to who they aren’t.

Either love me or leave me alone.
-Jay Z

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

Fathers: My Favorite

In celebration of Father’s Day, I wanted to say thank you to all fathers that go beyond the call of duty.

I especially want to thank my father who has been there during those important moments and someone I look to for advice; my father-in-law who has always welcomed my thoughts and feelings with open arms; and my husband who continues to be my hero and my rock.

Here are a couple of quotes that speak to what a father is in so many different ways (source: LA Daily News).

“It is a wise father that knows his own child.”

— William Shakespeare

Anyone who tells you fatherhood is the greatest thing that can happen to you, they are understating it.”

— Mike Myers

“One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters.”

— George Herbert

“This is the price you pay for having a great father. You get the wonder, the joy, the tender moments – and you get the tears at the end, too.”

— Harlan Coben

“It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.”

— Pope John XXIII

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.”

— Jim Valvano

“Father’s Day is hopefully a time when the culture says, ‘This is our moment to look at who our men and boys are.’”

— Michael Gurian

“I decided in my life that I would do nothing that did not reflect positively on my father’s life.”

— Sidney Poitier

“Real fatherhood means love and commitment and sacrifice and a willingness to share responsibility and not walking away from one’s children.”

— William Bennett

“Fatherhood is a very natural thing; it’s not something that shakes up my life but rather it enriches it.”

— Andrea Bocelli

“My father used to say that it’s never too late to do anything you wanted to do. And he said, ‘You never know what you can accomplish until you try.’”

— Michael Jordan

 Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor