Allow me to reintroduce myself . . .

“Fellow Americans, it is with the utmost pride and sincerity that I present this recording as a living testament and recollection of history in the making during our generation.”

“Allow me to reintroduce myself”

I know you’ve had to reintroduce yourself a couple of times, right? And I mean this in the nicest way possible— but sometimes people need to be reminded of who you really are . . . #flickshair #adjustscrown.

Occasionally our closest friends and loved ones forget what we’re capable of at our high and low points in life. Undeniably, when we’re at the low end, our grit and hustle kick in teaching us to appreciate the high points ALWAYS.

The best way to describe reintroductions goes something like this:  you meet your mate, fall in love with all their “ways,” and then get amnesia once you cross that threshold called the altar -uh, wayyyment! Guess what, they were like this all the long but your head may have been in the clouds. No worries.

“Hi, I’m Neat Freak, the person you married about a month/years ago that has been this way FOR YEARS.”

From his analytic insight to her dramatic ways, you learn it’s a part of this person and you’ll need to learn to accept it.

Yes, there will be many days when you have to explain why you think the way you think, why you do what you do, why you wear what you wear, etc.  And why? Because for the most part, people really don’t change much when it comes to their core. This is when Jay-Z’s lyrics kick in and reintroduction begins:

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re challenged: this shows our toughness and usually based upon our life experiences.

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re hurt: this is a reminder of our vulnerability and how we’re able to make a comeback through the heartache and headache.

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re fearful: fear is never an emotion we should dwell upon. Acknowledge it and then move away from it as quickly as possible.

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re confident: My favorite. When confidence reappears (and not cockiness) it can inspire a whole lot of people. It’s good food for the soul.

We reintroduce ourselves when we’re on a mission: Nothing can get in the way of someone who has a goal in mind. They just keep at it until it’s accomplished. I can and I will; end of story.

As we constantly reintroduce ourselves, we still remain our true selves. If you meet someone today expect them, for the most part, to be the same tomorrow.

We love (and like) people for who they are as opposed to who they aren’t.

Either love me or leave me alone.
-Jay Z

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

Fathers: My Favorite

In celebration of Father’s Day, I wanted to say thank you to all fathers that go beyond the call of duty.

I especially want to thank my father who has been there during those important moments and someone I look to for advice; my father-in-law who has always welcomed my thoughts and feelings with open arms; and my husband who continues to be my hero and my rock.

Here are a couple of quotes that speak to what a father is in so many different ways (source: LA Daily News).

“It is a wise father that knows his own child.”

— William Shakespeare

Anyone who tells you fatherhood is the greatest thing that can happen to you, they are understating it.”

— Mike Myers

“One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters.”

— George Herbert

“This is the price you pay for having a great father. You get the wonder, the joy, the tender moments – and you get the tears at the end, too.”

— Harlan Coben

“It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.”

— Pope John XXIII

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.”

— Jim Valvano

“Father’s Day is hopefully a time when the culture says, ‘This is our moment to look at who our men and boys are.’”

— Michael Gurian

“I decided in my life that I would do nothing that did not reflect positively on my father’s life.”

— Sidney Poitier

“Real fatherhood means love and commitment and sacrifice and a willingness to share responsibility and not walking away from one’s children.”

— William Bennett

“Fatherhood is a very natural thing; it’s not something that shakes up my life but rather it enriches it.”

— Andrea Bocelli

“My father used to say that it’s never too late to do anything you wanted to do. And he said, ‘You never know what you can accomplish until you try.’”

— Michael Jordan

 Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

Downloading conversation…NOW!

Download: an act or instance of transferring something from, usually a large computer, to the memory of another device (Merriam-Webster).

We’ve ALL been in conversations that went something like this when calling a friend:

YOU: “Hi girl, I haven’t talk to you in while. How’s it going?”
YOUR FRIEND: “Girlllll . . .” This means you need to sit back and listen.

OR she calls you and it goes like this:

YOUR FRIEND: “I’m just so over it right now. Let me tell you. . . ”
YOU: “What’s going on?” Be prepared to grab a cup; she’s about to spill some tea.

Recently, I had such an eye-opening conversation similar to this where I had to check myself. Why hadn’t I checked in with a friend of mine? Why hadn’t she checked in with me? Why hadn’t we called each other in so long? Was it for selfish reasons – like we both had too much going on to check on each other? Or maybe we didn’t feel compelled to call because . . . well, we just didn’t.

Guess what? These are wrong answers when it comes to the people we call our friends. It’s almost like we rely heavily on social media to check on them. Also, often times I find myself living for what’s right in front of me as opposed to reaching out – but we must check in with our people. And sometimes it may call for those “downloading” moments.  

The unfortunate side of not checking in: when we finally get around to it and the friend is gone to heaven or something terrible has happened. Don’t let this be any of us.

There are so many ways we connect with people, primarily through our mobile devices. I get it. The funny thing is on social media, we all live a fabulous life – trips, kids, marriages, good food, and good times. Sure we do.

Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and whatever else may make it appear one way and that’s fine; I’m not one to post my dirty laundry anyway. But we all have those days when things aren’t going well. This is where the downloading comes in with a true conversation as opposed to some other form of communicating – like text messaging #sideeye.

The point: we’re all living this life and dealing with life. Check in with your peeps, give them a call, tell them you are here, and be open to the download on both sides of the conversation. True friends will always listen and never judge.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor                          

Colors of the Rainbow

The school year has ended and my relationship with behavior charts is O-V-E-R! It was a good year for my kindergartner and we’re ready for 1st grade.

See my post with Atlanta Area Moms blog where I explore “Colors of the Rainbow,” and my behavior chart blues.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

Where my girls at?

A friend is like a star that twinkles and glows; Or maybe like the ocean that gently flows; A friend is like gold that you should treasure; And take care of forever and ever.

– Ashley Campbell

Ever really miss your girls? Of course you do and I miss mine often considering I live a good distance from most of them. Thankfully, I had the opportunity to see them tonight – live and in full effect!

As you know, we live in Atlanta and the squad is in the DMV – as in Washington, D.C., Maryland, and Virginia. When I attended Howard University– shout out to the Bison family-I met some really good friends and love that we still keep in touch after 20 years. Wait, did I just age myself?

When my husband and I decided to move to Atlanta, it took me a moment to accept there would be no more drinks at Ozios, The Meeting Place, or dinner at some restaurant we all wanted to try. And then all the other antics that bonded us even closer – ups and downs, major accomplishments, relationships, marriages, kids…you get the picture. We have done a lot together and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I’m blessed to be among women who truly inspire me. I love how we all come from different walks of life and stay true to each other. I also love how we can pick up a conversation from years ago and carry on like we just talked yesterday or have a conversation across the room and not say a word #thelooks.

True friends are there from the beginning to the end no matter what. They will never judge, will ALWAYS be there, and when you cry, they cry.

So on this evening as I have a cocktail with them, I’m reminded to value each and every one…where my girls at? Right here!

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

When it doesn’t happen

Hello there! We are taking it back to December when I was excited about an opportunity that didn’t happen. But now I know it was all on God’s timing. 

Sometimes we have to be thankful it didn’t happen. 

Enjoy!

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You’re excited to start a new opportunity, you await that special call…and then…or you’ve met a great person, you connect well with them…and then…REJECTION!

Immediately, you show up to the pity party, early, crying the blues to all your family and friends and indulge in making yourself feel bad for yet another failed opportunity, relationship, or situation.

Apparently there are 14 steps to different types of rejection according to wikihow. Who has time for that? I surely don’t and need the recovery to be quick if I can help it. THANKS!

But in all seriousness, rejection is tough. How can we continue to experience it and still keep going? How do we ultimately react?  Well, guess what? Surprise, you’re going to be OK.

Too many times we blame ourselves for not getting that job or the relationship/friendship that didn’t work out. Honestly, the first reaction to rejection, at least for me, is the feeling of “darn, what happened” or “how did I mess this up.” Nope, take those words right on back because there’s something on the other side of the rainbow – a pot of gold.

Recently, I was looking forward to an opportunity that didn’t work out. I was hopeful and then the rejection came. First, I sunk and then felt like I let a couple of people down. But, these were the same people that said “well, that was their loss.” I quickly snapped out of it -well, maybe after a day- and moved on.

The next day the rainbow showed up and a past client called me to do some work- the pot of gold was right there.

Once we realize all things will work out for us and not against us, true peace takes place and rejection becomes a redirection. At that moment, when you accept rejection with a different outlook, you realize it wasn’t for you and move on quickly. This is also the revelation.

Everything is not according to the way YOU want the chips to fall. God’s plan is not man’s plan. He actually laughs when we make plans – insert a huge laugh here -pwhahhhahaha- just like that.

There’s always something bigger and better for you. When rejection comes your way and stands in front, step around it, say thank you, and await the next opportunity. I promise, it’s coming.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

P.S. Thank you to @nopressurenodiamondz…this one’s for us!

 

 

 

Boy lessons for Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is Sunday and I’m reminded of the two little men in my life (and the princess) who continue to teach me lessons. This is a post from late last year as I’m always thankful they picked me and celebrate being “mommmmmyyyyy” everyday :o)

Enjoy!

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Boy Lessons

As a child, I always wanted two kids- a boy and a girl. plans. Fast forward and we’re in with two boys and a girl – apparently God had other plans.

I’m sure you’ve seen or heard enough about parenting boys -like their awkward bodily functions and the other “fun” stuff. But they also teach some really cool lessons, especially to their moms, and I learned one this week.

As I prepared for my first mother/son dance, I was super excited. Hair done – check. Nails painted-check. Suit and tie -check. We are ready to hit the dance floor.

But in the midst of this first dance mode and doing everything,  my kindergartner taught me about accepting help (even when it may not be necessary). For my three-year-old, we’ll just say #workinprogress, but he’s not far behind his brother :o).

“No, I got it,” and “Mommy will do it”(all for that matter) was the response before this post. Then I took a step back, caught my words, and realized what they were doing and what I needed to learn. Accept help even in the simplest form.

I’ve always been independent and took pride it getting the job done without the help of others. However, sometimes this can hinder our progress when we don’t receive the help openly or acknowledge that we even need it.

Our kids constantly see us multitasking. Surely they think we’re crazy so they step in like any other person would. And for boys, it’s even more important they learn the importance of helping and being gentlemen. This is what makes a good husband, father, and friend.

So as we prepare to leave for our mother/son dance, I am looking forward to taking it all in. I remain thankful I truly have a child that helps when he sees it right in front of him. I’m sure as we hit the door, he’ll likely get my keys, open the door, and walk me into the dance… and that’s what it’s all about.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

Simon says “Family”

Summer is coming and there will be plenty of family gatherings around the grill, at the pool, or in the park. This week was a lesson in what is most important when it comes to family – love.  No matter what happens, they’re still family.

This post is from this past holiday season. I enjoyed it because with all our quirkiness, we always come right back together… because Simon says so :o)

Smooches!

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Alex, I’ll take family for $500!

The holidays are around the corner which equals family time. Whether for Thanksgiving or Christmas, let the planning begin . . . with a glass of wine.

This year for Thanksgiving we are diverting from our usual plans and heading to the Blue Ridge Mountains in Georgia. We’re looking forward to a beautiful cabin, wooded scenery, and devouring a festive meal.

Considering that my family is primarily women, you quickly learn to adapt to the personalities:

The matriarchs (the aunts/moms) who pretty much rule the land and the kitchen for that matter. We love them and they love their family. But please don’t cross them . . . or else.

The cousins who pretty much do their thing and keep in contact with one another albeit Facebook or text messaging. When we do call one another, it’s usually to gossip like any other family. Tee hee :o)

The men who keep to themselves and interject when they see the women making absolutely no sense. It happens from time-to-time. Well maybe all the time. LOL.

Last, there are the youngest three munchkins who happen to be my kids. They provide comic relief ALL THE TIME; amusing at most gatherings. Yep, that’s my kid dancing to The Dramatics or Michael Jackson and off beat.

So back to the cabin trip for 13. Easy-peasy right? That’s 13 different personalities. BREATHE.  This week, the Gods challenged us but it worked out. Quickly came the teachings, lessons, and a dose of patience:

  1. Every family member has an opinion – don’t take it personal. It wouldn’t be “fun” if everyone was the same, right? Sure.
  2. All budgets are not made equal. Attempt to find a happy money medium and make it work. Count the pennies wisely.
  3. This is not the time to suddenly announce “I’m vegan.” Get in where you fit in. Have a nice salad with that dinner roll.
  4. Someone will complain about something that everyone else agrees upon. No worries, just nip it in the bud and move on.
  5. Acknowledge that you’re family . . . like the same blood line. You’ll have to speak to each other (or maybe not if you choose) so keep your cool. It’s not that serious.
  6. Have answers to all the odd questions beforehand and be prepared to explain yourself a couple of times. Patience luv!
  7. Think before you speak. And then think again. Then give your Alex Trebek answer “What is Crazy Family 2016.”
  8. Take a moment to step back if you get flustered. Then come back to it. Your head will be much clearer. And ask for help when you need it.
  9. Make sure there’s plenty of wine.
  10. Make sure there’s plenty of wine.

But in all honesty, be thankful for family and what they bring to the Thanksgiving or Christmas table. Without them, I’m not sure where I’d be. #MyVillage

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

 

Take your time and take time for you

This one is a #tbt post when I first started my blog last year. I can’t begin to tell you how much of a priority it is, especially now, for me to take time for myself and to plan my day. If you don’t work, NOTHING else will work.

Smooches!


Paint your toe nails (original post)

Husband: What’s that?
Me: My weekly planner or “Slay Your Day,” planner.
Husband: Weird look
Me: What?
Husband: So what are doing?
Me: Uhh, planning my day for tomorrow
Husband: Why?
Me: So I stay on task, investing into myself. MAYBE you should try it (side eye)
Husband: Crickets . . .

So, just know that I have a great husband who is all about his business and “slaying,” if there’s a male version of that. But every now and then,  I say things just to see his reaction . . . or not . . . love you honey :o).

Now back to me. Last week I was dealing with a lot and suddenly became overwhelmed. My oldest son wasn’t using his “listening ears or walking feet” in school, I was attempting to post to social media for our business, and then felt like I could NOT get through my to-do list. And then I broke down, let it all out, and got back up again.

Being at home these days, I feel like there’s always something to be done. But have realized, I want to get everything done without truly planning it out; like helping my husband with the barber shop, getting my media and events company on the right track, while caring for my 6 month-old and thinking about my other two kids. I was all over the place and needed to get focused. Luckily, The Slay Your Day Planner for bloggers by Mattie James, or anyone for that matter, came to my rescue (shout out to the BFF. Thank you!)

We all become overwhelmed when we don’t take time to plan and take a moment for ourselves. This week I learned the importance of time blocks and being realistic with how much time something will really take me.

I started (and hope to keep it up):

  1. Morning: meditating for 5 minutes, praying, and reading a chapter in the bible
  2. Throughout the day: Attempting to think more positively even when things go wrong.
  3. Evening: filling out my planner for the next day with detail – even down to what I plan to wear. It saves a lot of time.

Remember to also take time for yourself at least for 5 minutes everyday. STOP. BREATHE. And then paint your toenails. It takes patience and you can’t rush through it…or your toes come out looking all types of crazy and so will you.

Take your time and take time for you.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

A look in the mirror: part deux

This post from last fall was a reality check . While, I tend to be confident in how I look, after having a baby the mirror and I were at odds – it’s called postpartum weight.

Well . . .almost 20lbs less later and counting, we’re friends again (my mirror and I) and we’ll remain that way no matter what I look like.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

Enjoy!

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We have all done it to ourselves- took a look in the mirror and was not happy. For me, it’s usually based around failing a fitness goal or not feeling my normal self.

This past weekend I decided to go to TJ Maxx. I was excited because it’s been a while and I wanted to fill a void in my closet. As you all may know, I love accessories but you can’t wear them with the wrong outfit. So me and baby girl headed out the door.

And then it happened. I got to the store and didn’t want to look in the mirror. Now, we all know TJ Maxx has PLENTY of mirrors. In fact, there was one on every aisle. I avoided them all. I went around them, looked away, and finally just got my items and left the store. At that moment I knew I was not myself.

Later that night I was still in a funk. Then the hubby asked what’s wrong. Silence. He asked again. Silence . . . and then tears. Now he was concerned.

I finally said I wasn’t happy about how I looked and while shopping, I didn’t look in the mirror. His response was probably the best I have heard in a while.

“Babe, you JUST had a baby 7 months ago.” He also mentioned I was older now and that our bodies don’t bounce back like they used to…uhh insert record scratching sound effect here. Anyway, he was right. I was being too hard on myself.

We all tend to be this way when it comes to our goals. If we don’t meet them, or it doesn’t look good, we beat ourselves up. Stop doing that. When you do your best, that’s what matters most.

Thankfully these past two weeks, I’ve started exercising again- for real this time – and watching the diet. However, when you invest in yourself, it takes time; be patient.

After the conversation, I got myself together, prayed, and kept it moving- literally. I think I needed to hear those words and I’m thankful he realized it. I’ve done the weight loss thing before post baby and came out shinning.

So let me put on these shades, do my thing to lose the extra pounds, look in the mirror, and be thankful for who I am.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

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