What Matters Most

Humility. Yes, I am actually writing about this because Leos (birthday August 21!), yours truly, tend to be stubborn, wanting to do what they want to do, and don’t take “no” for an answer. We are confident in our decisions and usually find a work-around if there is a challenge ahead.

Recently I read an article posted by a dear friend (thanks @creativityflows19) that really stood out. It was by Jason Young about being humble – not just with man, but more importantly, with God.

As you all know, I write about all types of things in my life – my kids, my husband, my family, my friends, and whatever else. In addition, I’m hopeful that somewhere in my writing my spirituality comes through. I am no saint, more so a work in progress, but try to remain connected to a higher being.

A long time ago, my father told and taught me about humility “If you remain humble before God, anything is possible.” I never forgot it. Never.

Like I said, a work in progress and I’ve learned a lot in the past year about humility. From being at home with my kids, to reinvigorating our media & events business, to going back to work, to staying afloat with our barber shop, and trying to keep it all together.

With all of this, there have been threats to my sanity, our finances, my marriage, and family – and I don’t mean threats from people. I mean the threats that come in from our thoughts that create unnecessary situations, issues, and of course arguments.

When was the last time you had an argument and humbled yourself by saying “I’m sorry” first? At times, it’s hard for some – we just let it ride when we know we were wrong or, heck, even right. I tend to think first about all the reasons why I was right and they were wrong. It’s human nature I guess.

But what does being right have to do with being humble? Nothing I am finding. Yes, right is right and wrong is wrong but what does it really mean when we think about it? Again, nothing.

I have found that when you come to someone and apologize, it softens their heart and yours. It rids you both of the weight that comes with an argument (that was probably dumb in the first place) or a grudge that is holding you back in some way. It’s just not worth it.

At the end of the day, we all learn from our issues. Those experiences make us stronger. When you show humility, you’re the better person and will always come out on top in God’s eyes. That’s what matters most.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

 

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A look in the mirror

We have all done it to ourselves- took a look in the mirror and was not happy. For me, it’s usually based around failing a fitness goal or not feeling my normal self.

This past weekend I decided to go to TJ Maxx. I was excited because it’s been a while and I wanted to fill a void in my closet. As you all may know, I love accessories but you can’t wear them with the wrong outfit. So me and baby girl headed out the door.

And then it happened. I got to the store and didn’t want to look in the mirror. Now, we all know TJ Maxx has PLENTY of mirrors. In fact, there was one on every aisle. I avoided them all. I went around them, looked away, and finally just got my items and left the store. At that moment I knew I was not myself.

Later that night I was still in a funk. Then the hubby asked what’s wrong. Silence. He asked again. Silence . . . and then tears. Now he was concerned.

I finally said I wasn’t happy about how I looked and while shopping, I didn’t look in the mirror. His response was probably the best I have heard in a while.

“Babe, you JUST had a baby 7 months ago.” He also mentioned I was older now and that our bodies don’t bounce back like they used to…uhh insert record scratching sound effect here. Anyway, he was right. I was being too hard on myself.

We all tend to be this way when it comes to our goals. If we don’t meet them, or it doesn’t look good, we beat ourselves up. Stop doing that. When you do your best, that’s what matters most.

Thankfully these past two weeks, I’ve started exercising again- for real this time – and watching the diet. However, when you invest in yourself, it takes time; be patient.

After the conversation, I got myself together, prayed, and kept it moving- literally. I think I needed to hear those words and I’m thankful he realized it. I’ve done the weight loss thing before post baby and came out shinning.

So let me put on these shades, do my thing to lose the extra pounds, look in the mirror, and be thankful for who I am.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

 

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Crust on Your Face

Guess what? You’re not all that . . . sorry to break the news to you.

I have never thought I was “all that,” but there have been moments when I knew I had MY stuff together and the person next to me, metaphorically speaking, needed to get it together.

There are a couple of people in my life that I call my “chin checkers.” These are my go-to girls (shout out to @kalipeach, @morethanamom, @creativityflows19, @fashionablyfly) when I may need to get called out about my thoughts and attitude – quickly. They tell me the truth and I appreciate their candor about this thing we call life.

I had a rude reawakening this past week when I flew off the handle over a conversation- I knew I was right and they had to get it together . . . not so.

One thing I am big on is doing what you say with no excuses because people don’t care about your excuses; they want the job done and for you to follow through. I had planned my part of this ordeal, had my stuff together (so I thought) but then there was an issue with timing and Murphy’s Law showed up. You know the rest of the story.

I was d-o-n-e.

I have a tendency to go from 0 to 100 in about 0.001 seconds when you push the wrong buttons. But I am working on it, trust the process. So I called fashionablyfly. She checked me (nicely!) and handed me some words of wisdom: “Well . . . you’ll know the next time, for this particular client, allow for much more time. Put them in the ‘special box’ and don’t get upset.”

She was right. What I thought was enough time, clearly was not. Grrrr. I was the one with crust on my face. She also mentioned “not walking in offense,” but we’ll save that for another day.

Sometimes, you need to slow your roll and think about the issue. You can only be in control of yourself. And people, like me, need to be told sometimes or checked. It’s reality.

Besides, a crusty face isn’t cool. And I’m too cute and smart for that anyway.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor