Where my girls at?

A friend is like a star that twinkles and glows; Or maybe like the ocean that gently flows; A friend is like gold that you should treasure; And take care of forever and ever.

– Ashley Campbell

Ever really miss your girls? Of course you do and I miss mine often considering I live a good distance from most of them. Thankfully, I had the opportunity to see them tonight – live and in full effect!

As you know, we live in Atlanta and the squad is in the DMV – as in Washington, D.C., Maryland, and Virginia. When I attended Howard University– shout out to the Bison family-I met some really good friends and love that we still keep in touch after 20 years. Wait, did I just age myself?

When my husband and I decided to move to Atlanta, it took me a moment to accept there would be no more drinks at Ozios, The Meeting Place, or dinner at some restaurant we all wanted to try. And then all the other antics that bonded us even closer – ups and downs, major accomplishments, relationships, marriages, kids…you get the picture. We have done a lot together and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I’m blessed to be among women who truly inspire me. I love how we all come from different walks of life and stay true to each other. I also love how we can pick up a conversation from years ago and carry on like we just talked yesterday or have a conversation across the room and not say a word #thelooks.

True friends are there from the beginning to the end no matter what. They will never judge, will ALWAYS be there, and when you cry, they cry.

So on this evening as I have a cocktail with them, I’m reminded to value each and every one…where my girls at? Right here!

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

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Rejection to redirection

You’re excited to start a new opportunity, you await that special call…and then…or you’ve met a great person, you connect well with them…and then…REJECTION!

Immediately, you show up to the pity party, early, crying the blues to all your family and friends and indulge in making yourself feel bad for yet another failed opportunity, relationship, or situation.

Apparently there are 14 steps to different types of rejection according to wikihow. Who has time for that? I surely don’t and need the recovery to be quick if I can help it. THANKS!

But in all seriousness, rejection is tough. How can we continue to experience it and still keep going? How do we ultimately react?  Well, guess what? Surprise, you’re going to be OK.

Too many times we blame ourselves for not getting that job or the relationship/friendship that didn’t work out. Honestly, the first reaction to rejection, at least for me, is the feeling of “darn, what happened” or “how did I mess this up.” Nope, take those words right on back because there’s something on the other side of the rainbow – a pot of gold.

Recently, I was looking forward to an opportunity that didn’t work out. I was hopeful and then the rejection came. First, I sunk and then felt like I let a couple of people down. But, these were the same people that said “well, that was their loss.” I quickly snapped out of it -well, maybe after a day- and moved on.

The next day the rainbow showed up and a past client called me to do some work- the pot of gold was right there.

Once we realize all things will work out for us and not against us, true peace takes place and rejection becomes a redirection. At that moment, when you accept rejection with a different outlook, you realize it wasn’t for you and move on quickly. This is also the revelation.

Everything is not according to the way YOU want the chips to fall. God’s plan is not man’s plan. He actually laughs when we make plans – insert a huge laugh here -pwhahhhahaha- just like that.

There’s always something bigger and better for you. When rejection comes your way and stands in front, step around it, say thank you, and await the next opportunity. I promise, it’s coming.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

P.S. Thank you to @nopressurenodiamondz…this one’s for us!