“I’m proud of you”

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless –Mother Teresa.

When was the last time you told someone you were proud of them? Was it for something small or big they accomplished or a goal they were working on day in and day out? In any event, did you tell them?

Over the past two years I have encountered some challenges but continue to remain thankful for each situation. From work and home life to family and friendships – the lessons have been worth it. But more importantly, I’m thankful for my motivators and inspirers who keep me going with kind words. And this week, I got a dose which was right on time.

“I’m proud of you.” It’s amazing how these four words stopped me right in my tracks. While I’ve been told this before from friends to colleagues, I think what grabbed me: it was from someone close who noticed. Certainly there have been others who have said the same words – you know who you are and I appreciate you — but it got me thinking about why it was so important.

When someone says, they’re proud of you it means they’ve been paying attention to you through the ups and downs, been right there watching you remain committed to what you want to accomplish. And it means a lot.

I sat there and re-read the email about three or four times and then responded with how much it meant to me. It was what I needed and I held onto the words.

We all know how important it is to compliment one another – especially women. But when someone actually notices it carries a lot of weight. At that moment I felt reinvigorated, courageous, ambitious, and knew I could count on myself to keep moving forward.

The next time you see something worth the mention, tell the person “I’m proud of you!” We all could use a pat on the back.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

P.S. And for the record, I’m proud of you reading this post. I am certain you have done something to hug yourself for :o)

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Downloading conversation…NOW!

Download: an act or instance of transferring something from, usually a large computer, to the memory of another device (Merriam-Webster).

We’ve ALL been in conversations that went something like this when calling a friend:

YOU: “Hi girl, I haven’t talk to you in while. How’s it going?”
YOUR FRIEND: “Girlllll . . .” This means you need to sit back and listen.

OR she calls you and it goes like this:

YOUR FRIEND: “I’m just so over it right now. Let me tell you. . . ”
YOU: “What’s going on?” Be prepared to grab a cup; she’s about to spill some tea.

Recently, I had such an eye-opening conversation similar to this where I had to check myself. Why hadn’t I checked in with a friend of mine? Why hadn’t she checked in with me? Why hadn’t we called each other in so long? Was it for selfish reasons – like we both had too much going on to check on each other? Or maybe we didn’t feel compelled to call because . . . well, we just didn’t.

Guess what? These are wrong answers when it comes to the people we call our friends. It’s almost like we rely heavily on social media to check on them. Also, often times I find myself living for what’s right in front of me as opposed to reaching out – but we must check in with our people. And sometimes it may call for those “downloading” moments.  

The unfortunate side of not checking in: when we finally get around to it and the friend is gone to heaven or something terrible has happened. Don’t let this be any of us.

There are so many ways we connect with people, primarily through our mobile devices. I get it. The funny thing is on social media, we all live a fabulous life – trips, kids, marriages, good food, and good times. Sure we do.

Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and whatever else may make it appear one way and that’s fine; I’m not one to post my dirty laundry anyway. But we all have those days when things aren’t going well. This is where the downloading comes in with a true conversation as opposed to some other form of communicating – like text messaging #sideeye.

The point: we’re all living this life and dealing with life. Check in with your peeps, give them a call, tell them you are here, and be open to the download on both sides of the conversation. True friends will always listen and never judge.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor