Part Deux: Umm No…but Merry Christmas!

Happy Holidays!

As we all prepare for Christmas in 10 days, I wanted to post an oldie-but-goodie from this time last year with some added commentary :o) There is a lot to be thankful for and it’s not just what’s under the tree. Remember that and say  “uh no” to the shenanigans.

Enjoy!

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Ho, ho, ho, Merry Christmas! It’s the season of getting cranked up for that special day attending this party and that one and buying gifts galore. Sure.

Well, this year there are a couple of things I decided NOT do. It’s really more so to keep my cool and not stress over the minutia.  I’ve learned so many lessons along the way when it comes to celebrating Christmas – and most important, honoring the birth of Jesus.

However, commercialism has geared us away from what should be the true focus “of the most wonderful time of the year.” Like family, good friends, and being thankful you made it to another Christmas because a lot of people didn’t.

With that being said, here is my top five list of  “um no ” not this Christmas – with three days left to spare:

  1. Going overboard with baby’s first Christmas. – I love my new little one and she’s my only girl. But . . . there is no need to go crazy on gifts and more gifts. Do you remember your very first Christmas? Exactly. However, I will get several pictures – and honestly it’s going to be about loving on her that morning.
    And the same goes for this year as we celebrate her second Christmas. Easy-peasy.
  2. Buying toys and more toys for the boys – As you all know, I also have two boys who have taken over practically every room in this house with toys. And then the big toys- why? I don’t need to see the toy before I walk into the room. Their grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins have this covered anyway. I’ll move out the old to replace the new – Goodwill here I come.
    Little to no toys again!
  3. Christmas cards going to Terry, Sherry, and Kerry – I can recall sending Christmas cards to all my wedding guests post our nuptials years back. Just kidding. My point: instead of sending and signing all those cards (Where is my hubby?), New Year’s cards will go out to the nearest and dearest. For the others, smile, you know I luv you.
    This may or may not happen; maybe a text message to close friends but see #4.
  4. Mass text messages to a gazillion people on Christmas Day – I was guilty of this in my former life, ain’t gonna lie. It gets messy because most reply ALL. Well “message rates apply.” Like when my aunt Bea responds seven times because she doesn’t know how to use her phone. I have a couple of those in my life #lmbo.
    Don’t. Please and thank you. 
  5. Eating everything in sight because it’s the holidays – Really? This means I’ll have to be carried away from the table. And all my hard work for the last couple of months goes down the toilet – literally. LOL. I will eat but within reason. Being healthy is a lifestyle and takes commitment; I’ve learned this the hard way.
    No-way-Jose. 

This is one of the best times of the year as people come together to help each another. If you took away the gifts and all the other nonessential buzz of Christmas, would it still be Christmas? “Um yessss!” Merry Christmas.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

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#GirlsTrip

What happens on this trip, STAYS on this trip. #pinkyswear

Remember that time you took a girls trip? I thought it’d be appropriate to bring all those memories back considering the movie, Girls Trip, comes out next week. This type of trip would be perfect right about now, I’m just saying.

I remember a time when a girls trip or field trip was nothing – you thought it and then you did it. We would hit the car or plane with no worries with freedom to do whatever. Now, it’s like moving an iceberg.

o   First it has to be cleared with the CFO husband

o   Second, possible arrangements for the kids – um, why am I doing this and one parent will still be present?

o   Now to pack clothes that I probably either can’t fit or don’t even like anymore – but let’s roll anyway

o   How much money do you I need – refer back to the CFO – wosah

o   Now hit the road –oh wait, I forgot my underwear—just kidding.

In all honesty, I love taking road trips or plane trips with my girls. I have traveled to Jamaica, France, Spain, and Sweden among other places with friends. And then there were all the adventures in college to New York, Chicago, Philly, LA, South Carolina (shout out to Orangeburg!) and others I can’t remember. It was an exploratory time and I loved it.

So with the movie coming out in about a week, here is a list of girl trips I plan take BEFORE then…sure. I can dream, right?

A Day at Serenbe

A cool community south of Atlanta where you can shop all day, go to the spa, hike, and more. And then if you’re tired, stay with your friends at The Inn. Do whatever your fancy pants wants. Any takers?

Pop the Cork Wine Tours

Did you say wine? I am there with a big glass. I love wine tasting and this seems like an awesome opportunity to get together and be adult with your girlfriends. Lunch is included too? Cheers!

Iwi Fresh Garden Day Spa

Need I say more? Anything that has the word “spa” in it, works for me. No kids. No husband. Relaxation. And then you head back to reality after it’s over…but who’s keeping tabs right? Sit back and enjoy anyway.

Salamander Resort & Spa

When I finally do get away for a quick girlfriends trip, this would be one of my picks primarily because it’s owned by extraordinaire Sheila C. Johnson. It sounds wonderful and I have friends that have been—without me (insert sad face).

Kanuhura Maldives

And for the ultimate girls trip, THIS IS IT. When I call and say “pack your bags,” don’t ask any questions because this is where we are going. Beautiful!

So take a moment, think of all your girls, and plan a field trip…NOW!

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…especially with your girlfriends!

Sun Taylor

It’s about to go down. . .

Wooosah.

In about two months, I turn the big 4-0. How did that happen? I feel like I was just 25 and now look at me – married for almost 11 years with three kids. And this California girl is living in Atlanta- who knew.

So what does 40 mean? Do you cry? Eat? Or have a mid-life crisis? Well, I plan to eat and see whatever else falls into my lap. One of my friends @momsdestiny suggested I complete 40 things to commemorate the year; sure and I’ll send her the bill later.

But it did get me thinking. What would you do if you could complete 40 things of your choice in a year? Here is my long list and maybe –just maybe–I’ll make it through ALL of them. Hopefully my husband is taking notes #teehee

  1. Visit Italy with the hubby
  2. Horseback riding on a beautiful beach
  3. Visit Barbados and never come back (just kidding!)
  4. Take a trip with my kids to Hershey Park
  5. Get a massage on the beach
  6. Go to the opera
  7. Visit the Grand Canyon
  8. Take my mom to New York (I still can’t believe she’s never been)
  9. Test drive a Porsche
  10. Buy a designer purse – Fendi, Birkin, Louis, Gucci- you know one of those
  11. Swim with dolphins
  12. Drive across country
  13. Wine tour in Napa Valley
  14. Take a magic pill to lose weight in two days (the struggle is real)
  15. Ride on a motorcycle with my husband- sun shades and Daisy Dukes #yep
  16. Actually play on a golf course
  17. Take an Alaskan cruise
  18. Decorate my little girl’s room – for real this time
  19. Run the Peachtree Roadrace
  20. Learn some Spanish
  21. Make a homemade apple pie
  22. Roast a big ass turkey
  23. Take my kids to Disney World
  24. Paddle boat around the Jefferson Memorial in Washington, D.C.
  25. Go up in the Washington Monument
  26. Visit the 9/11 Memorial
  27. Visit the National Museum of African American Culture and History
  28. Visit the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute
  29. Take a water aerobics class
  30. Get a FitBit
  31. Join a book club
  32. Complete my business website
  33. Volunteer when I can
  34. Open another barber shop with my husband
  35. Go camping or shall I say “glamping.”
  36. Take a girls trip
  37. Invest in property
  38. Participate in a bible study at church
  39. Turn 41
  40. Have fun even on the rainy days

Forty, here I come baby #adjustscrown

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

Get in formation

“I see it, I want it, I stunt, yellow bone it,
“I dream it, I work hard, I grind ’til I own it.”
~Beyonce – Formation

Guess what? Change is looking you right in the eye. Why? Because it is time to get what you want, how you want, and when you want- no darn excuses.

It’s 2017, the year I turn 40 (and several of my friends too if they haven’t already). When 40 is on the horizon, things just change and I’m ready for a transformation.

With that being said, on Wednesday we decided to help ourselves and others start to transform into what they would like to become. The details on this 14 day transformation challenge are here…so get it going.

During the 14 days, we’re providing great tips and daily challenges from spirituality and inspiration, hair and beauty, health and wellness, finance, fun, and business.

The team:

  • LaWanda (@momsdestiny) – The beauty and brains behind this formation; she’s always on point and knows her stuff like no other.
  • Donita (@donitalynnette1) – If you are looking for some relaxation, call this natural beauty. She has great oils to make you feel like you can take on anything.
  • Zerline (@zerlinehughes) – She has a beautiful smile and spirit to match. Oh, and she teaches kick butt Zumba classes and will bring that Cali sunshine your way.
  • Felisha (@fefeinc) – As her IG page describes, she “build brands, businesses, people, and movements.” Please come correct. She’s the real deal.
  • Adrin (@sevenandcompany) – We call him Seven. He is no joke when it comes to hair and beauty. We all need a lucky number Seven in our life. Get one.
  • Tiffanie (@agoaldigger) – She is lovely and “vibrates to a different frequency”… and everyone loves her. She’s also “a good book to read ” and will keep you inspired.
  • Janice (@fitbudgetma) – This one right here…if only I could borrow her body every summer. She is always fit and fly, knows finances, and can thrift shop like no other.

And finally, me. You all know my story and I’ll be providing tips on f-u-n and experience. Girls just wanna have fun…right?

So what does this transformation really means? It’s not about where you are, but where you plan to go. This past year was tough and I needed a new beginning when the clock struck midnight on January 1. I truly believe everything happens for a reason -and this was when I realized I needed a change; otherwise , where would I be?

Join us and remember: the transformation comes after you get in formation.

Because the sun always come out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

 

Alex, I’ll take family for $500

The holidays are around the corner which equals family time. Whether for Thanksgiving or Christmas, let the planning begin . . . with a glass of wine.

This year for Thanksgiving we are diverting from our usual plans and heading to the Blue Ridge Mountains in Georgia. We’re looking forward to a beautiful cabin, wooded scenery, and devouring a festive meal.

Considering that my family is primarily women, you quickly learn to adapt to the personalities:

The matriarchs (the aunts/moms) who pretty much rule the land and the kitchen for that matter. We love them and they love their family. But please don’t cross them . . . or else.

The cousins who pretty much do their thing and keep in contact with one another albeit Facebook or text messaging. When we do call one another, it’s usually to gossip like any other family. Tee hee :o)

The men who keep to themselves and interject when they see the women making absolutely no sense. It happens from time-to-time. Well maybe all the time. LOL.

Last, there are the youngest three munchkins who happen to be my kids. They provide comic relief ALL THE TIME; amusing at most gatherings. Yep, that’s my kid dancing to The Dramatics or Michael Jackson and off beat.

So back to the cabin trip for 13. Easy-peasy right? That’s 13 different personalities. BREATHE.  This week, the Gods challenged us but it worked out. Quickly came the teachings, lessons, and a dose of patience:

  1. Every family member has an opinion – don’t take it personal. It wouldn’t be “fun” if everyone was the same, right? Sure.
  2. All budgets are not made equal. Attempt to find a happy money medium and make it work. Count the pennies wisely.
  3. This is not the time to suddenly announce “I’m vegan.” Get in where you fit in. Have a nice salad with that dinner roll.
  4. Someone will complain about something that everyone else agrees upon. No worries, just nip it in the bud and move on.
  5. Acknowledge that you’re family . . . like the same blood line. You’ll have to speak to each other (or maybe not if you choose) so keep your cool. It’s not that serious.
  6. Have answers to all the odd questions beforehand and be prepared to explain yourself a couple of times. Patience luv!
  7. Think before you speak. And then think again. Then give your Alex Trebek answer “What is Crazy Family 2016.”
  8. Take a moment to step back if you get flustered. Then come back to it. Your head will be much clearer. And ask for help when you need it.
  9. Make sure there’s plenty of wine.
  10. Make sure there’s plenty of wine.

But in all honesty, be thankful for family and what they bring to the Thanksgiving or Christmas table. Without them, I’m not sure where I’d be. #MyVillage

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor