But give thanks

I’m back and this one is short and sweet!

So what do you do when you feel like throwing in the towel? Sometimes, it just seems easier to say “forget it” and move on. I have done it plenty of times but always come right back to that same towel #smh.

After thinking about what may have seemed impossible, I move on it. A dear friend recently told me a quote her pastor said: “God blesses moving people.” And I’ll add devoted people too.

With that being said:

  1. Don’t give up on launching your business. Just do it.
  2. Don’t give up on your family because they come first.
  3. Don’t give up on losing weight. It’s a process and eventually it will happen.
  4. Don’t give up on that project at work. You will be rewarded.
  5. Don’t give up on your finances. Do the best you can and keep at it.
  6. Don’t give up on your life even though the diagnosis may be grim. Go live.
  7. Don’t give up on your marriage. You said “for better or worse.”
  8. Don’t give up on love. It happens when it’s supposed to happen.
  9. Don’t give up on what you really want – big or small.
  10. And finally, don’t ever give up on yourself; but give thanks for where you are in this moment and where you plan to go.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

 

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What Matters Most

Humility. Yes, I am actually writing about this because Leos (birthday August 21!), yours truly, tend to be stubborn, wanting to do what they want to do, and don’t take “no” for an answer. We are confident in our decisions and usually find a work-around if there is a challenge ahead.

Recently I read an article posted by a dear friend (thanks @creativityflows19) that really stood out. It was by Jason Young about being humble – not just with man, but more importantly, with God.

As you all know, I write about all types of things in my life – my kids, my husband, my family, my friends, and whatever else. In addition, I’m hopeful that somewhere in my writing my spirituality comes through. I am no saint, more so a work in progress, but try to remain connected to a higher being.

A long time ago, my father told and taught me about humility “If you remain humble before God, anything is possible.” I never forgot it. Never.

Like I said, a work in progress and I’ve learned a lot in the past year about humility. From being at home with my kids, to reinvigorating our media & events business, to going back to work, to staying afloat with our barber shop, and trying to keep it all together.

With all of this, there have been threats to my sanity, our finances, my marriage, and family – and I don’t mean threats from people. I mean the threats that come in from our thoughts that create unnecessary situations, issues, and of course arguments.

When was the last time you had an argument and humbled yourself by saying “I’m sorry” first? At times, it’s hard for some – we just let it ride when we know we were wrong or, heck, even right. I tend to think first about all the reasons why I was right and they were wrong. It’s human nature I guess.

But what does being right have to do with being humble? Nothing I am finding. Yes, right is right and wrong is wrong but what does it really mean when we think about it? Again, nothing.

I have found that when you come to someone and apologize, it softens their heart and yours. It rids you both of the weight that comes with an argument (that was probably dumb in the first place) or a grudge that is holding you back in some way. It’s just not worth it.

At the end of the day, we all learn from our issues. Those experiences make us stronger. When you show humility, you’re the better person and will always come out on top in God’s eyes. That’s what matters most.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

 

When it doesn’t happen

Hello there! We are taking it back to December when I was excited about an opportunity that didn’t happen. But now I know it was all on God’s timing. 

Sometimes we have to be thankful it didn’t happen. 

Enjoy!

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You’re excited to start a new opportunity, you await that special call…and then…or you’ve met a great person, you connect well with them…and then…REJECTION!

Immediately, you show up to the pity party, early, crying the blues to all your family and friends and indulge in making yourself feel bad for yet another failed opportunity, relationship, or situation.

Apparently there are 14 steps to different types of rejection according to wikihow. Who has time for that? I surely don’t and need the recovery to be quick if I can help it. THANKS!

But in all seriousness, rejection is tough. How can we continue to experience it and still keep going? How do we ultimately react?  Well, guess what? Surprise, you’re going to be OK.

Too many times we blame ourselves for not getting that job or the relationship/friendship that didn’t work out. Honestly, the first reaction to rejection, at least for me, is the feeling of “darn, what happened” or “how did I mess this up.” Nope, take those words right on back because there’s something on the other side of the rainbow – a pot of gold.

Recently, I was looking forward to an opportunity that didn’t work out. I was hopeful and then the rejection came. First, I sunk and then felt like I let a couple of people down. But, these were the same people that said “well, that was their loss.” I quickly snapped out of it -well, maybe after a day- and moved on.

The next day the rainbow showed up and a past client called me to do some work- the pot of gold was right there.

Once we realize all things will work out for us and not against us, true peace takes place and rejection becomes a redirection. At that moment, when you accept rejection with a different outlook, you realize it wasn’t for you and move on quickly. This is also the revelation.

Everything is not according to the way YOU want the chips to fall. God’s plan is not man’s plan. He actually laughs when we make plans – insert a huge laugh here -pwhahhhahaha- just like that.

There’s always something bigger and better for you. When rejection comes your way and stands in front, step around it, say thank you, and await the next opportunity. I promise, it’s coming.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

P.S. Thank you to @nopressurenodiamondz…this one’s for us!

 

 

 

Purposeful living…in stilettos

As I get older, there are things I must understand.  Not everyone is going to like me. Nothing is perfect- not a job, not a friendship, not a house, not a spouse.  Nothing lasts forever- not possessions, not happiness, not life, nothing. Live on purpose and be intentional about your purpose in life. Pursue what you’re passionate about.

It was in 2010, while working for the state of Georgia, when I realized my purpose.  I worked in the most unprofessional, unproductive, and unethical environment ever; to say the least.  I almost felt as if I needed to lower my standards and compromise who I am in order to fit in. Learn the latest rap songs, come to work in my weekend attire, wear gym shoes, wait until I get to work to finish my hair, elect not to answer questions until I finish talking on the phone about the club and boyfriend problems, bash other women who looked great and was in leadership roles- you get the picture.

I was mentally and emotionally drained daily trying to figure out how can adult women, in a professional environment, conduct themselves like they are in a work release program. I was miserable, depressed, unproductive, and embarrassed by the place I called work and the people I called coworkers.

During this time, I was working on my PhD in Public Policy and Administration. I had only two classes to finish when God revealed my purpose- Leadership, Organizational and Professional Development. I made the decision to put my PhD on hold and obtain a second masters in Leadership and Organizational Development- crazy right? NO! God will cause discomfort in order for us to pursue his purpose for us.

I knew then that I wanted to start a Leadership and Professional Development Institute. I do believe in the saying, if people knew better, then they would do better. Sometimes we just need a road map and someone to show us the way without tearing us down in the process.

Leading in Stilettos, calls on women to practice purpose in all aspects of their lives and provides tools to show you how to do it with grace and elegance.  Leading in Stilettos also provides guidance on how to present a positive professional image in the workplace. This is my God driven purpose and I had to learn this through an non-conducive environment – and I’m thankful it happened this way.

That experience in 2010 taught me the importance of showing dignity, grace, and elegance no matter the circumstance. It truly defines what I always strive to represent and hope the women of Leading in Stilettos exemplify.  One thin g is certain – you are your brand so represent yourself well!

XOXO,
Natasha
IG @leadinginstilettos