When it doesn’t happen

Hello there! We are taking it back to December when I was excited about an opportunity that didn’t happen. But now I know it was all on God’s timing. 

Sometimes we have to be thankful it didn’t happen. 

Enjoy!

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You’re excited to start a new opportunity, you await that special call…and then…or you’ve met a great person, you connect well with them…and then…REJECTION!

Immediately, you show up to the pity party, early, crying the blues to all your family and friends and indulge in making yourself feel bad for yet another failed opportunity, relationship, or situation.

Apparently there are 14 steps to different types of rejection according to wikihow. Who has time for that? I surely don’t and need the recovery to be quick if I can help it. THANKS!

But in all seriousness, rejection is tough. How can we continue to experience it and still keep going? How do we ultimately react?  Well, guess what? Surprise, you’re going to be OK.

Too many times we blame ourselves for not getting that job or the relationship/friendship that didn’t work out. Honestly, the first reaction to rejection, at least for me, is the feeling of “darn, what happened” or “how did I mess this up.” Nope, take those words right on back because there’s something on the other side of the rainbow – a pot of gold.

Recently, I was looking forward to an opportunity that didn’t work out. I was hopeful and then the rejection came. First, I sunk and then felt like I let a couple of people down. But, these were the same people that said “well, that was their loss.” I quickly snapped out of it -well, maybe after a day- and moved on.

The next day the rainbow showed up and a past client called me to do some work- the pot of gold was right there.

Once we realize all things will work out for us and not against us, true peace takes place and rejection becomes a redirection. At that moment, when you accept rejection with a different outlook, you realize it wasn’t for you and move on quickly. This is also the revelation.

Everything is not according to the way YOU want the chips to fall. God’s plan is not man’s plan. He actually laughs when we make plans – insert a huge laugh here -pwhahhhahaha- just like that.

There’s always something bigger and better for you. When rejection comes your way and stands in front, step around it, say thank you, and await the next opportunity. I promise, it’s coming.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

P.S. Thank you to @nopressurenodiamondz…this one’s for us!

 

 

 

Purposeful living…in stilettos

As I get older, there are things I must understand.  Not everyone is going to like me. Nothing is perfect- not a job, not a friendship, not a house, not a spouse.  Nothing lasts forever- not possessions, not happiness, not life, nothing. Live on purpose and be intentional about your purpose in life. Pursue what you’re passionate about.

It was in 2010, while working for the state of Georgia, when I realized my purpose.  I worked in the most unprofessional, unproductive, and unethical environment ever; to say the least.  I almost felt as if I needed to lower my standards and compromise who I am in order to fit in. Learn the latest rap songs, come to work in my weekend attire, wear gym shoes, wait until I get to work to finish my hair, elect not to answer questions until I finish talking on the phone about the club and boyfriend problems, bash other women who looked great and was in leadership roles- you get the picture.

I was mentally and emotionally drained daily trying to figure out how can adult women, in a professional environment, conduct themselves like they are in a work release program. I was miserable, depressed, unproductive, and embarrassed by the place I called work and the people I called coworkers.

During this time, I was working on my PhD in Public Policy and Administration. I had only two classes to finish when God revealed my purpose- Leadership, Organizational and Professional Development. I made the decision to put my PhD on hold and obtain a second masters in Leadership and Organizational Development- crazy right? NO! God will cause discomfort in order for us to pursue his purpose for us.

I knew then that I wanted to start a Leadership and Professional Development Institute. I do believe in the saying, if people knew better, then they would do better. Sometimes we just need a road map and someone to show us the way without tearing us down in the process.

Leading in Stilettos, calls on women to practice purpose in all aspects of their lives and provides tools to show you how to do it with grace and elegance.  Leading in Stilettos also provides guidance on how to present a positive professional image in the workplace. This is my God driven purpose and I had to learn this through an non-conducive environment – and I’m thankful it happened this way.

That experience in 2010 taught me the importance of showing dignity, grace, and elegance no matter the circumstance. It truly defines what I always strive to represent and hope the women of Leading in Stilettos exemplify.  One thin g is certain – you are your brand so represent yourself well!

XOXO,
Natasha
IG @leadinginstilettos