Hold a Kate Spade

With the recent death of Kate Spade, I felt compelled to re-post this about dealing with mental health. I was so saddened to hear that she ended her life – and for what reasons we’ll never really know.

The first thing that came to mind: did she ever seek professional help? Were there any signs? Could someone have helped her in time?

Mental health with women is real. We face the challenges of managing our households and careers and anything else that falls in between–and it’s a beast. While we’ll continue to hold a Kate Spade–no more “holding.”


Breathe. You have a lot going on and decide to buckle down, not think about what’s really happening (mentally) and hold it together. Umm no. If you need help, ask – and I don’t just mean from family and friends.

Too many people live in a dark place when they need help. They don’t ask for it in fear of what others will say or simply because of pride. We reject the idea of a therapist, marriage counseling, life coach or whatever a licensed professional can offer.

Mental health is just as important as physical health. And for people that look like me – mental health tends to be overlooked. Instead, we are told to “pray about it” and carry on. I do agree that praying is important but we also need to be wise when we know something needs to be adjusted.

African Americans are 20% more likely to report having serious psychological distress than non-Hispanic Whites, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Office of Minority Services. Yet young adult African Americans, especially those with higher levels of education, are less likely to seek mental health services than their White counterparts, according to a study published by the American Psychological Association (Ebony Magazine).

We don’t have to hold ourselves together all the time. That’s called being normal. And if it gets to a point where it’s too much, I can not stress enough, please seek professional help. You will thank yourself later #noholding.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain.

Sun Taylor

Photo Credit: Warmly Whit


A couple of weeks ago I took pilates. And just like the first time I took yoga, I thought “this shouldn’t be too hard.” WRONG.

My dear friend Leneé is a pilates instructor – a really good instructor- and offered to do a session in her home along with an assessment of health and fitness goals. I was game and super excited — and of course brought champagne.

But then the reformer entered. If you know anything about a pilates reformer, my face was all types of twisted after the session. REALLY? This machine is the business. Basically, it’s a bed-like frame with a flat platform on it, called the carriage, which rolls back and forth on wheels within the frame. Hun?

When we started, I immediately knew this “ish” was going to be hard. “This way,” “that way,”  “now go,” “come on, you got it.” Whaaaa….I was tired after five minutes. However, I got through it and plan to make my way back for another session.

Leneé started Beauty Fitness Redefined in 2016 with one mission in mind: therapeutic strengthening and stretching of the mind and body. This fitness company serves clients in the metro Atlanta area by teaching Barre, Cycling, Pilates, and Corporate Stretch™ Classes.

She has always loved movement as a dance major at UNC Charlotte and former captain for the Carolina Panthers Cheerleader Squad. So what led her to this moment? In August of 2000, after experiencing paralysis on the left side of her body, she received a diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis (MS).

“Regaining strength and mobility was not only a physical challenge, but also a mental one.” Leneé regained mobility and strength in “record timing” according to her doctors and hasn’t looked back since.

She continues to make strides in teaching movement and holistic wellness as clients will eventually have sessions available via a mobile app.

“This will be a great opportunity to serve our clients outside of metro Atlanta or those who are unable to travel for an in-person session.”

And finally as we finished our session, we popped that chilled bottle of champagne – you know the typical thing you do after exercising – and proceeded to catch up.

The most important thing I learned from her: truly define your health and fitness goals and be proud of the steps you make to become better.  At that moment when she received the diagnosis of MS, she redefined herself.

Meet Leneé Beauty Fitness Redefined. 

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

Catch Leneé here:


Get in formation

“I see it, I want it, I stunt, yellow bone it,
“I dream it, I work hard, I grind ’til I own it.”
~Beyonce – Formation

Guess what? Change is looking you right in the eye. Why? Because it is time to get what you want, how you want, and when you want- no darn excuses.

It’s 2017, the year I turn 40 (and several of my friends too if they haven’t already). When 40 is on the horizon, things just change and I’m ready for a transformation.

With that being said, on Wednesday we decided to help ourselves and others start to transform into what they would like to become. The details on this 14 day transformation challenge are here…so get it going.

During the 14 days, we’re providing great tips and daily challenges from spirituality and inspiration, hair and beauty, health and wellness, finance, fun, and business.

The team:

  • LaWanda (@momsdestiny) – The beauty and brains behind this formation; she’s always on point and knows her stuff like no other.
  • Donita (@donitalynnette1) – If you are looking for some relaxation, call this natural beauty. She has great oils to make you feel like you can take on anything.
  • Zerline (@zerlinehughes) – She has a beautiful smile and spirit to match. Oh, and she teaches kick butt Zumba classes and will bring that Cali sunshine your way.
  • Felisha (@fefeinc) – As her IG page describes, she “build brands, businesses, people, and movements.” Please come correct. She’s the real deal.
  • Adrin (@sevenandcompany) – We call him Seven. He is no joke when it comes to hair and beauty. We all need a lucky number Seven in our life. Get one.
  • Tiffanie (@agoaldigger) – She is lovely and “vibrates to a different frequency”… and everyone loves her. She’s also “a good book to read ” and will keep you inspired.
  • Janice (@fitbudgetma) – This one right here…if only I could borrow her body every summer. She is always fit and fly, knows finances, and can thrift shop like no other.

And finally, me. You all know my story and I’ll be providing tips on f-u-n and experience. Girls just wanna have fun…right?

So what does this transformation really means? It’s not about where you are, but where you plan to go. This past year was tough and I needed a new beginning when the clock struck midnight on January 1. I truly believe everything happens for a reason -and this was when I realized I needed a change; otherwise , where would I be?

Join us and remember: the transformation comes after you get in formation.

Because the sun always come out after the rain…

Sun Taylor