Fathers: My Favorite

In celebration of Father’s Day, I wanted to say thank you to all fathers that go beyond the call of duty.

I especially want to thank my father who has been there during those important moments and someone I look to for advice; my father-in-law who has always welcomed my thoughts and feelings with open arms; and my husband who continues to be my hero and my rock.

Here are a couple of quotes that speak to what a father is in so many different ways (source: LA Daily News).

“It is a wise father that knows his own child.”

— William Shakespeare

Anyone who tells you fatherhood is the greatest thing that can happen to you, they are understating it.”

— Mike Myers

“One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters.”

— George Herbert

“This is the price you pay for having a great father. You get the wonder, the joy, the tender moments – and you get the tears at the end, too.”

— Harlan Coben

“It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.”

— Pope John XXIII

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.”

— Jim Valvano

“Father’s Day is hopefully a time when the culture says, ‘This is our moment to look at who our men and boys are.’”

— Michael Gurian

“I decided in my life that I would do nothing that did not reflect positively on my father’s life.”

— Sidney Poitier

“Real fatherhood means love and commitment and sacrifice and a willingness to share responsibility and not walking away from one’s children.”

— William Bennett

“Fatherhood is a very natural thing; it’s not something that shakes up my life but rather it enriches it.”

— Andrea Bocelli

“My father used to say that it’s never too late to do anything you wanted to do. And he said, ‘You never know what you can accomplish until you try.’”

— Michael Jordan

 Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor

A “moment”

Need a moment, grab a Twix. Sorry, I couldn’t resist.

We all go through trying times, situations, and “interesting” people that call for a breather. From our spouses and kids to family and friends,  sometimes a #%& moment is required.

Most of my moments come with my kiddos – that’s two toddlers and one kindergartner – but I have learned to adapt… and red wine helps (wink).

So what do you do when you need a moment? Walk away, smile, or throw something – lol. Well, I had a lot of moments this week  with all types of ish calling for a Twix.

because-i-said-soOne of your toddlers keeps asking “why?”
This called for a moment of breathing in and out and I’m still dealing with it. I had to remember he’s only 3 years old and learning everything, thus the “why” all the time. If you are a stay at home mom, please take moments as much as you need. I usually retreat to my room BY myself and do nothing for as long as I can.

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A client reaches out; “frackle-nackle-bull”
After working on a proposal for an entire day, you realize you have to walk away from the project. It was somewhat shady from the start and I should have realized…damnnn Gina! I had to refocus and get back on top of my game. This was when my moment called for a jumbo Twix. Nom, nom, nom.

what-you-talkin-bout-willis-quote-1When you’re told you’re selfish . . . hmm
This about sent me over the top. But I didn’t respond with words. I calmed my boiling skin and had the look of  Arnold. Sometimes you have to keep it moving; if people don’t literally walk in your shoes, they will never understand you. This moment called for a”drank.” Cheers, two times. Buh Bye!

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“Overloaded” with laundry and everything else
Laundry piling up makes me “feel some type a way.” This weekend, I just did it all as opposed to waiting on the laundry fairy. This was a defining moment: clean laundry brought the clarity I needed and took the overloaded feeling away.

At the end of the day, we all need moments to be with ourselves and/or by ourselves. Take all the moments you need throughout the day to get through the day. Sun Taylor’s orders :o)

And as I put my shades back on and ride into the sunset, please know that my alone time a.k.a moment is sometimes for your safety.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

 

 

 

 

 

 

A look in the mirror

We have all done it to ourselves- took a look in the mirror and was not happy. For me, it’s usually based around failing a fitness goal or not feeling my normal self.

This past weekend I decided to go to TJ Maxx. I was excited because it’s been a while and I wanted to fill a void in my closet. As you all may know, I love accessories but you can’t wear them with the wrong outfit. So me and baby girl headed out the door.

And then it happened. I got to the store and didn’t want to look in the mirror. Now, we all know TJ Maxx has PLENTY of mirrors. In fact, there was one on every aisle. I avoided them all. I went around them, looked away, and finally just got my items and left the store. At that moment I knew I was not myself.

Later that night I was still in a funk. Then the hubby asked what’s wrong. Silence. He asked again. Silence . . . and then tears. Now he was concerned.

I finally said I wasn’t happy about how I looked and while shopping, I didn’t look in the mirror. His response was probably the best I have heard in a while.

“Babe, you JUST had a baby 7 months ago.” He also mentioned I was older now and that our bodies don’t bounce back like they used to…uhh insert record scratching sound effect here. Anyway, he was right. I was being too hard on myself.

We all tend to be this way when it comes to our goals. If we don’t meet them, or it doesn’t look good, we beat ourselves up. Stop doing that. When you do your best, that’s what matters most.

Thankfully these past two weeks, I’ve started exercising again- for real this time – and watching the diet. However, when you invest in yourself, it takes time; be patient.

After the conversation, I got myself together, prayed, and kept it moving- literally. I think I needed to hear those words and I’m thankful he realized it. I’ve done the weight loss thing before post baby and came out shinning.

So let me put on these shades, do my thing to lose the extra pounds, look in the mirror, and be thankful for who I am.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

 

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The rare art of silence

It is hard for me to keep quiet sometimes. And then if you add the fact that I talk loud, silence tends not to be golden for your girl.

I can talk to ALOT of people in a day. It’s crazy if you think about who you come across in 24 hours.

But then there are times when you just need to shut it up or zip it. And this week, I decided to put the art of silence to the test by listening, rather than talking and cutting someone off mid-sentence. I know, how rude! I’m working on it.

The first conversation was with the husband  – right, big surprise. While there were a trillion ways I could have responded, I decided not to respond at all . . .  silencing myself. The conversation continued with no argument (this time) and I was OK. You know that was hard.

Second, came a conversation with my oldest son who reminded me I forgot to say something while he was being told what to do. Wait…what? How old are you again? KINDERGARTEN, right? OK, just checking. I just looked at him in silence –  “the Mama look”- and kept it moving.

And the last conversation was with a colleague. I had to shush it and listen. Needless to say, it was calming. There were also a couple of deep breaths in there.

For someone who studied communications, this was actually a cinch . . . umm no.  But what I did learn was silence definitely helps you listen better, think about whether it’s worth responding, and puts your thoughts in check.

So the next time when you need to shush and sit down somewhere, please do so. You might just be saving yourself. Then walk away, flick your hair, and give them the side eye . . . o0ps did I say that?

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor