Purposeful living…in stilettos

As I get older, there are things I must understand.  Not everyone is going to like me. Nothing is perfect- not a job, not a friendship, not a house, not a spouse.  Nothing lasts forever- not possessions, not happiness, not life, nothing. Live on purpose and be intentional about your purpose in life. Pursue what you’re passionate about.

It was in 2010, while working for the state of Georgia, when I realized my purpose.  I worked in the most unprofessional, unproductive, and unethical environment ever; to say the least.  I almost felt as if I needed to lower my standards and compromise who I am in order to fit in. Learn the latest rap songs, come to work in my weekend attire, wear gym shoes, wait until I get to work to finish my hair, elect not to answer questions until I finish talking on the phone about the club and boyfriend problems, bash other women who looked great and was in leadership roles- you get the picture.

I was mentally and emotionally drained daily trying to figure out how can adult women, in a professional environment, conduct themselves like they are in a work release program. I was miserable, depressed, unproductive, and embarrassed by the place I called work and the people I called coworkers.

During this time, I was working on my PhD in Public Policy and Administration. I had only two classes to finish when God revealed my purpose- Leadership, Organizational and Professional Development. I made the decision to put my PhD on hold and obtain a second masters in Leadership and Organizational Development- crazy right? NO! God will cause discomfort in order for us to pursue his purpose for us.

I knew then that I wanted to start a Leadership and Professional Development Institute. I do believe in the saying, if people knew better, then they would do better. Sometimes we just need a road map and someone to show us the way without tearing us down in the process.

Leading in Stilettos, calls on women to practice purpose in all aspects of their lives and provides tools to show you how to do it with grace and elegance.  Leading in Stilettos also provides guidance on how to present a positive professional image in the workplace. This is my God driven purpose and I had to learn this through an non-conducive environment – and I’m thankful it happened this way.

That experience in 2010 taught me the importance of showing dignity, grace, and elegance no matter the circumstance. It truly defines what I always strive to represent and hope the women of Leading in Stilettos exemplify.  One thin g is certain – you are your brand so represent yourself well!

XOXO,
Natasha
IG @leadinginstilettos

 

Imagine that

“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” ~Nelson Mandela

Are you living the life you imagined?  Maybe, maybe not. Imagining the life and living that life are two separate things. We all have dreams and aspirations as to what we would LIKE… and then there’s reality.

My current reality – I’m home with two of my kids, working on getting more clients, attempting to help my husband with our barber shop, and running the household on practically coffee fumes. Period.

My imaginative life – A kick butt PR consultant, working at home with good paying clients which afford me the opportunity to travel every once in a while (nationally and internationally), and do what I want financially; I’d also like to still be with my family whenever: like making those mid-day school performances and having lunch with my husband on a Wednesday, on my own time. I am not asking for much, right? LOL

This is where imagination has to take over reality if I want to fulfill what I believe God intended for me. But how do you do it? One day at a time. In order to really get this done, here are some of my thoughts on getting to the imaginative:

  1. Baby Steps
    We have all heard it, but do we do it? I see my daughter taking baby steps every day and she just keeps going. We have to continue to put one foot in front of other if we’re going to live what we imagined.
  2. Get Back Up
    Yes, “we fall down, but we get up (in my Donnie McClurkin voice). If it’s in your imagination, no one said it was going to be easy. Get your “arse” back up please. No excuses. Everyone has fallen, but the one’s that get back up. . . they live the life.
  3. The Squad
    I can’t stress this enough. My squad is supreme. When I feel like I’m off course, I have to call them. But not just the cheerleaders, the one’s that also tell me my “ish” stinks and I need to get it together. . . now.
  4. Ummm…No
    I recently talked about “no” and have learned a lot about this while being home. “No” it just might not happen today, or “no” I have to pass on that. The “no” gets me to what is really important; like focusing on the “yes” and moving closer to what I imagine for myself. 
  5. Being Honest
    As the saying goes, “honesty is the best policy.” Are you honest with yourself and what you’re truly capable of? I battle this constantly with self doubt. We are capable of so much more, but we stop at what’s easy. If it’s easy, it’s not imaginative.

Doing what is required is basic. But doing what’s required and then some, is when the life we imagined comes to fruition. Don’t settle for what you think you can do; go for what you think you can’t.

Imagine that.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain. . .

Sun Taylor