Hubby: Hey, I’m getting ready to call my parents
Me: Everything OK?
Hubby: Yes . . . (pause)
Me: Look of concern
Hubby: Just follow my lead
Me: Immediate side eye
Follow my lead? Not this natural born leader #uhhsure. While the conversation went well with my in-laws (I think; smile mom!) I was a little anxious because who’s interested in being a follower? Squinched face.
If you’re human – then you add husband/wife and mother/father—you’re constantly leading in some shape, form, or fashion. Leading what’s for dinner, leading homework, leading at work to get that promotion, leading your family and friends down a better path, and finally leading yourself up to bed at the end of an exhausting day. Always leading.
When was the last time you actually followed someone? And why did you decide it was OK? You know you’ve been told otherwise.
From the time we enter the world to landing that first job and beyond, we’re supposed to L-E-A-D. “Be a leader”, “make sure you show leadership,” or “lead like a champ” have been ingrained into our hearts and heads forever.
But what if I don’t feel like leading? Can I sit down and follow? Yes, but with good reason and trust. And it doesn’t mean your leadership card gets snatched away.
When you trust a person enough to follow, you’re setting aside your own beliefs and motives by allowing them to take over as pilot as you co-pilot. It’s perfectly fine in personal relationships, i.e. marriage, and professional relationships.
Yes, I gave side eye when I was told “follow my lead,” but knew my husband wasn’t going to lead me astray. I trust him.
And finally, as my mother-in-law has told me “following based on trust, love, and example is the only way to go.” I’ll leave that right there.
Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .