4-0

 40 – A bottle containing 40 fluid ounces of malt liquor beer. The beer is of low quality and fairly cheap to buy ~ Urban Dictionary

This past Monday, I turned 40. But luckily I’m not of “low quality and fairly cheap to buy.” But pass me an Olde English and pour out a little liquor for 39; she’s gone.

In all seriousness, I had a great time, received wonderful gifts, and was happy to see another year. “Life begins at 40,” or “40 and fabulous” started to roll in quickly and I appreciated them all. But I do think I was already fabulous #adjustingcrown.

I did notice my temperament— with some things— immediately changed. It was a reawakening of “you got this and don’t forget it.” Five days in and several thoughts have come to mind with 4-0:

Who cares what others think
I have never really been one to care what others think (besides my husband and perhaps 2.5 others) But now, I REALLY don’t. Think what you want. Those are your thoughts anyway.

Call it like you see it
I used to tread lightly in certain areas and with certain people. Deuces to that. Whether it’s good or bad, be ready for nice, nasty, or nice-nasty. You pick which one. We’ll still be friends. . . maybe.

“Ain’t nobody got time for that”
With three kids, work, life, and my new age, I really don’t have time for games or play-play. It’s straight up about business, at least sometimes. I still love you though.

Step off and away from . . .
The scale! I had grandeur plans to lose 50 lbs for my 40th. Guess what? That didn’t quite happen. But, I feel great and have learned to accept me for who I am: lips, hips, and a bag of chips. Whaa?

Root for yourself
Ups and downs in my 39 years has taught me to go for the win for you. Being selfish is not always being selfless. Remember that moms and dads.

Do what you want
And in the process be unapologetic. We get caught up in what we should do as opposed to what we really want to do. Have a plan and do you boo!

And finally, remain thankful. Never let the things you want make you forget about the things you have.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

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Do what you can’t

“Change jobs…nah, you can’t do that right now. You have to think about your family.”

“Buy a house? Bad idea…you can’t do that with everything else you have going on.”

 “Move out of state…no good, you can’t do that. It will ruin things and with what money?”

We have heard it all too often- YOU CAN’T. Bah humbug. Or perhaps you have talked yourself out of something because you internalized the word “can’t.” Hey, tell that dude to get out of your head because you can.

Lately, my youngest son tends to tell me “I can’t mommy” to the point where it’s driving me crazy. Before even making an attempt, he has given up…um no. My normal response- after somewhat yelling – has been “But did you try?”

The face then changes and the attempt is made to give it a whirl. Giving up without trying is not allowed – even with raising our kids. From putting on pajamas and socks to reading and writing, we…try, try, try.

Think about the times you decided to give up without even trying because you thought you couldn’t or someone told you, you can’t. What was your next move? Were you OK with not doing it? Probably not.

When someone says, “you can’t” here’s an alternate perspective- and I guess an acronym- that I made up and attempting to abide by (on these big goals of mine) when others don’t believe it can happen:

C– First, Collecting thoughts to make what “can’t” . . .  actually happen puts me in a good frame of mind. Take a moment, put everything to pen and paper – or on your computer- and roll with it.

A– Finding the Answers by researching and knowing the ins-and-outs so the plan is successful. Honestly, this helps me stay on top of my game and shows others just how wrong they were in the first place #flipshair

N -Procrastination is not an option; get moving Now. If you’re going to make it happen, then make it happen. No play, play because you’re serious… right? I thought so :o) #getgoingalready

T– We tend to think it’s not our time or we’re told the time isn’t right. Timeliness is determined by you when it comes to what you want to do. . . and we should always make time for what we want to do.

People will continue to tell you all the things that you can’t do and that’s OK. But guess what? Nine times out of ten, I think they’re probably saying it out of their own fear, failure, and doubt in you. Keep pushing for what you want.

Do what you can’t.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor