Just help

Help (verb)

  1. make it easier for (someone) to do something by offering one’s services or resources.

And . . . no, not the book The Help nor the time when black women were primarily the “hired help.” I am thinking about the kind of help we can all use every so often: sister-friend help or family help when we truly need it.

This week was an eye opener when I thought about helping others. Why do we continue to sit back and try to figure it out when all we need to do is ask for help? Puzzled? Yep me too and I’m guilty. There is no reason to take it on by ourselves. We all need to help each other, especially now.

Families are being torn a part for reasons that don’t make sense; there have been unfortunate suicides that have us thinking about the importance of mental health; and then the challenges of everyday life. But the sun does come out eventually.

Two dear friends needed help this week and I didn’t think twice about it. Why? Because that what we’re supposed to do. . . HELP EACH OTHER. And in return, ask for nothing. It will come back threefold if we remain humble and thankful we could actually help someone.

So for the next month, I challenge you to:

-Help someone at the grocery store

-Help a friend with a project they’d like to complete

-Help your child read a book before they go to bed

-Help a family member who needs it but won’t ask

-Help your spouse with something they’ve been putting off for way too long

-Help a mother/father with their kids just because

-Help yourself by doing something for yourself

Just help. . . that simple.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor

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A “moment”

Need a moment, grab a Twix. Sorry, I couldn’t resist.

We all go through trying times, situations, and “interesting” people that call for a breather. From our spouses and kids to family and friends,  sometimes a #%& moment is required.

Most of my moments come with my kiddos – that’s two toddlers and one kindergartner – but I have learned to adapt… and red wine helps (wink).

So what do you do when you need a moment? Walk away, smile, or throw something – lol. Well, I had a lot of moments this week  with all types of ish calling for a Twix.

because-i-said-soOne of your toddlers keeps asking “why?”
This called for a moment of breathing in and out and I’m still dealing with it. I had to remember he’s only 3 years old and learning everything, thus the “why” all the time. If you are a stay at home mom, please take moments as much as you need. I usually retreat to my room BY myself and do nothing for as long as I can.

frackle-nackle

A client reaches out; “frackle-nackle-bull”
After working on a proposal for an entire day, you realize you have to walk away from the project. It was somewhat shady from the start and I should have realized…damnnn Gina! I had to refocus and get back on top of my game. This was when my moment called for a jumbo Twix. Nom, nom, nom.

what-you-talkin-bout-willis-quote-1When you’re told you’re selfish . . . hmm
This about sent me over the top. But I didn’t respond with words. I calmed my boiling skin and had the look of  Arnold. Sometimes you have to keep it moving; if people don’t literally walk in your shoes, they will never understand you. This moment called for a”drank.” Cheers, two times. Buh Bye!

laundry

“Overloaded” with laundry and everything else
Laundry piling up makes me “feel some type a way.” This weekend, I just did it all as opposed to waiting on the laundry fairy. This was a defining moment: clean laundry brought the clarity I needed and took the overloaded feeling away.

At the end of the day, we all need moments to be with ourselves and/or by ourselves. Take all the moments you need throughout the day to get through the day. Sun Taylor’s orders :o)

And as I put my shades back on and ride into the sunset, please know that my alone time a.k.a moment is sometimes for your safety.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor