Download: an act or instance of transferring something from, usually a large computer, to the memory of another device (Merriam-Webster).
We’ve ALL been in conversations that went something like this when calling a friend:
YOU: “Hi girl, I haven’t talk to you in while. How’s it going?”
YOUR FRIEND: “Girlllll . . .” This means you need to sit back and listen.
OR she calls you and it goes like this:
YOUR FRIEND: “I’m just so over it right now. Let me tell you. . . ”
YOU: “What’s going on?” Be prepared to grab a cup; she’s about to spill some tea.
Recently, I had such an eye-opening conversation similar to this where I had to check myself. Why hadn’t I checked in with a friend of mine? Why hadn’t she checked in with me? Why hadn’t we called each other in so long? Was it for selfish reasons – like we both had too much going on to check on each other? Or maybe we didn’t feel compelled to call because . . . well, we just didn’t.
Guess what? These are wrong answers when it comes to the people we call our friends. It’s almost like we rely heavily on social media to check on them. Also, often times I find myself living for what’s right in front of me as opposed to reaching out – but we must check in with our people. And sometimes it may call for those “downloading” moments.
The unfortunate side of not checking in: when we finally get around to it and the friend is gone to heaven or something terrible has happened. Don’t let this be any of us.
There are so many ways we connect with people, primarily through our mobile devices. I get it. The funny thing is on social media, we all live a fabulous life – trips, kids, marriages, good food, and good times. Sure we do.
Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and whatever else may make it appear one way and that’s fine; I’m not one to post my dirty laundry anyway. But we all have those days when things aren’t going well. This is where the downloading comes in with a true conversation as opposed to some other form of communicating – like text messaging #sideeye.
The point: we’re all living this life and dealing with life. Check in with your peeps, give them a call, tell them you are here, and be open to the download on both sides of the conversation. True friends will always listen and never judge.
Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .