Off

When you feel off, you are.

Last week, I had a conversation with someone dear to my heart and felt like something was wrong and couldn’t figure it out.

We talked again and realized we both were thinking the same. Thankfully, we figured it out. A loved one had passed: I didn’t know and she thought I did. Talk about being off the mark.

When you feel different or off, do you act on it or let it ride? I let this one ride for a week knowing something wasn’t right. Wrong, wrong, wrong. Trust your instincts and feelings.

We all have that sixth sense. Think about all the moments you trusted your gut and didn’t go, decided to call for whatever reason, or took another route–and it was for the better.

According to care2.com, there are five gut instincts you should always trust as it relates to feeling “some type of way:”

  1. Something feels wrong in my body
    This goes without saying. Your body will tell you when something is wrong. Check it out.
  2. I’m in danger
    The feeling you get in that first 10 seconds about a person or situation is the truth. You know what you have to do – remove yourself.
  3. I want to help
    Most times we think of our instincts as a way to avoid something bad. But there is also good with our gut feelings. If you feel compelled from within, help.
  4. I know how to do this
    Too many times we think we can’t, when we know we can. Don’t overthink it. You got this #me
  5. This is it
    When you know, that you know, that you know, there is no conflict and it comes easy – love, a job, whatever.

The next time you feel off: question it, figure it out, and trust those instincts.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain…

Sun Taylor

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Follow my lead

Hubby: Hey, I’m getting ready to call my parents
Me:  Everything OK?
Hubby: Yes . . . (pause)
Me: Look of concern
Hubby: Just follow my lead
Me: Immediate side eye

Follow my lead? Not this natural born leader #uhhsure. While the conversation went well with my in-laws (I think; smile mom!) I was a little anxious because who’s interested in being a follower? Squinched face.

If you’re human – then you add husband/wife and mother/father—you’re constantly leading in some shape, form, or fashion. Leading what’s for dinner, leading homework, leading at work to get that promotion, leading your family and friends down a better path, and finally leading yourself up to bed at the end of an exhausting day. Always leading.

When was the last time you actually followed someone? And why did you decide it was OK? You know you’ve been told otherwise.

From the time we enter the world to landing that first job and beyond, we’re supposed to L-E-A-D. “Be a leader”, “make sure you show leadership,” or “lead like a champ” have been ingrained into our hearts and heads forever.

But what if I don’t feel like leading? Can I sit down and follow? Yes, but with good reason and trust.  And it doesn’t mean your leadership card gets snatched away.

When you trust a person enough to follow, you’re setting aside your own beliefs and motives by allowing them to take over as pilot as you co-pilot. It’s perfectly fine in personal relationships, i.e. marriage, and professional relationships.

Yes, I gave side eye when I was told “follow my lead,” but knew my husband wasn’t going to lead me astray. I trust him.

And finally, as my mother-in-law has told me “following based on trust, love, and example is the only way to go.” I’ll leave that right there.

Because the sun always comes out after the rain . . .

Sun Taylor